If I learned anything from my wedding it was to make it the day I wanted...that's all who matters on your wedding day.

Family and friends will ALWAYS have an opinion and if they can't be graceful that's their problem. Don't let them get you down...

I had the oposite problem...my parents aren't religious and anytime I'd talk about the ceremony, communion, the unity candle, whatever, I felt my mom's attention fading. It hurts when people don't respect your beliefs, especially on a day that supposed to be about you and your love.

I'd write that letter if you feel your uncle will be unable to be an adult. If he gets offended....too bad, his prior behavior paved the way for your letter.

Good luck with your planning. Your dress is breathtaking...I stared at it for minutes....its so pretty!!