I'm really sorry for the situation that you are in. Please understand, this woman is a user. She justifies her actions and never sees that she is in the wrong. She is not your friend. She is using your childhood friendship to manipulate you.

1. Don't give her another penny! Understand that most likely, you will not see that 600 dollars again.

2. Does she have any decent family that can take care of her daughter? In the old days we called these women unfit mothers.


You cannot change her. You cannot save her. You can only change how you react to her.

Give her an ultimatum. Either she seek counseling and obeys your house rules or she is gone! She will probably get angry at you and call you bad things. That's ok - remember, she's just trying to manipulate you. If/when you kick her out, be home to make sure she doesn't steal your stuff.


Sorry for being so harsh - but she sounds like bad news that will just get worse.