Tonya, I have been there and done that. I was a single mom of one child with a three bedroom house. My secretary at work was having terrible problems with her husband and I offered my home to her as a "stopping point" for a couple of weeks so that she could figure out what to do. She and her 3 year old daughter moved in and two months later, I was missing my privacy! I did NOT have to deal with what you are talking about, but it was hard for me, and I didn't have a husband or other children there. I came to resent her presence. She wasn't paying me rent, but she did buy her own food and was very clean and quiet. It was just having someone else there for much longer than I bargained for! Plus, I worked with her every single day! And she was my employee!

I hope you can get this straightened out and soon. I have to agree with the earlier response that you need to level with her now, even if it is in writing. I hate face to face confrontation, so writing is best for me.

Much luck to you. You intentions were the best. I hope your friend will realize that.

Logan