Some Sad News about Oliver :(

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I'm so sorry to hear that you have to return Oliver but I also respect your decision. Like others have said some cats are meant to be by themselves. Oliver is unfortunately one of them. I'm sure he'll find another loving home. Take care. {{{HUGS}}}

[shais_mom]

I am so sorry Kelly. We support your decision. You know what is best for your babies.
You are in our thoughts and prayers!

[BastetsMum]

I haven't been here long but I am sorry to hear that Kelly. You tried so hard to keep your little famliy together but if Oliver isnt' happy and making the other kitty's unhappy then it is the best decision you could have made for your own sanity and your kitty's sanity.

I am SURE Oliver will find a great furrever home! I know that because your love and devotion to him that he will make a wonderful kitty for someone special.

You and Oliver are in my prayers.

You did the right thing.

Don't fell bad about this Kelly! You are a terrific cat-mom, we ALL know that!! Little Oliver will not be mad at all, he will be so grateful to you for giving him a second chance. He will be a purrfect one-in-a-house-cat !!
{{{{hugs}}}}

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, when you had taken Oliver to the vet for his check up and soft paws didn't you say that one of the ladies there was interested in Oliver if things didn't work out? If I'm remembering correctly then maybe you could give her a call and let her know the situation. Then if she's still interested she could adopt Oliver and you wouldn't have to return him to the rescue place.

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by krazyaboutkatz
Kelly, when you had taken Oliver to the vet for his check up and soft paws didn't you say that one of the ladies there was interested in Oliver if things didn't work out? If I'm remembering correctly then maybe you could give her a call and let her know the situation. Then if she's still interested she could adopt Oliver and you wouldn't have to return him to the rescue place.

She did say that, but she had four cats at home as well. I don't want to put him through another house like that.

Last night and this morning were really bad. I feel so horrible, but Oliver is going to spend the rest of his time with us in the bathroom. I jumped on my eye this morning as he was going after poor Olivia. I just can't handle yelling at him all the time and having the others living at the top of the cat tree.

I feel horrible that most of his life with us has been unhappy. I feel like a horrible person for yelling at him to stop all the time, for squirting him with a spray bottle. I mean, what can he think?? He's so sweet when its just us, what a wonderful forgiving spirit. I'm in tears today thinking about how cruel I've been. I'm just so upset.

Last night I had a total breakdown when Micah grabbed on to me when I wanted to go to sleep. I love my kitties, but I don't know why I "HAD" to get more. I wish I knew when to stop, it isn't fair what it does to my babies. I can't stop crying today...especially as I type this. (Its not just Oliver, its everything going on in my life right now, I'm so emotional....off to eat more chocolate!!)

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by NoahsMommy
I can't stop crying today...especially as I type this. (Its not just Oliver, its everything going on in my life right now, I'm so emotional....off to eat more chocolate!!)

Aww Kelly, don't feel bad. You weren't cruel to Oliver, you were just trying to help him out and give him a good home. How were you to know he wasn't going to get along with the others. Like I said before, you certainly don't need this added stress right now, so you made a real tough, but wise decision to return him. Please don't beat yourself up over it. He will be much happier in a one-kitty home.

Please remember the good you have done giving the other kitties the best home they could ask for. When you go home, tell David you need a big hug in person because we can only give you cyber hugs from here. Try and get some rest 'cause being upset isn't helping you any, or the kitties.

{{{hugs}}}

[wolflady]

{{{Kelly}}}
Please don't feel bad, sweetie. T&P's mom is right, how were you supposed to know that Oliver wouldn't get along with the other cats in your home? Apparently, the person who thought he got along with other cats was mistaken, or just like my Sam from college, maybe he was ok with cats in neutral territory. You tried, and it's not your fault that he would be better as an only pet. You're the best kitty mommy around, and it shows, because you know your babies so well, and you know that it would be better for all 6 of them for Oliver to be an only cat. That in itself is a tough decision, but made out of nothing but love.

I'm here for you, chica, if you need to talk
**hugs**
Karen

[HayleyRosie]

Please don't feel bad about your decision. You are showing true love. You are doing what is best for Oliver and that is what is important. Just give him all the love you can right now and give him some scritchies from me. I'm sure he knows how much you love him.

[batgirl1980]

*shares my box of kleenex*
Please don't beat yourself up. You're doing what's right, and it comes from the love you have for your babies, and all the other kitties that cross your path. I know it's hard, but it's not your fault. Some kitties just want be the one and only, and Oliver turned out to be one of those, it's not your fault. You did your best, and we all know that you're the best kitty mommie, because you do whatever it takes to make sure they are all happy.

Don't feel bad about yelling at him , it's not your fault. You did your best, and I know he appreciates you trying, even if he's stubborn about a multiple cat household.

{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} *goes and gets another box of kleenex, because i'm having such a bad time right now, i'm bawling with you about oliver even though i haven't met him*

Just remember we're here for ya, and that you're doing whats best for everyone involved.

[NoahsMommy]

Thank you for making me feel better about this decision. I just feel so bad about how I've treated him...I know it was necessary when we were keeping him, now it just seems cruel to me. I know he isn't mad at me.

I will give him lots of love tonight...I hope he know how much I love him. I just want him to be happy. I know he will, he's a great kitty.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

Please don't think you were cruel to Oliver because you yelled at him and squirted him with water. I've bout drowned Chester several times when he scratches the door. If I didn't yell at them once in a while, they'd think I was sick. It's not cruel, it's human. They know very well what they ought not do but like to test us by doing it anyway. That's called being a cat. You did your best with Oliver. Maybe his new owner wasn't it a position to get him yet and his stay with you was like a stay in a hotel until his new owner could get him. There are no coincidences you know.

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by momoffuzzyfaces
I've bout drowned Chester several times when he scratches the door. If I didn't yell at them once in a while, they'd think I was sick.

Too funny MOFF. And I agree, sometimes I think they're like little kids and they do things they know they're not supposed just so we do yell at them.

[Soledad]

You were being responsible and trying to discipline him. That's what all loving parents do, especially when there are other kitties to think of.

[sasvermont]

Last night both cats were at each other - howling, hissing, attacking....so I started screaming at them....they cleared out....it did stop them and gave them something more important to focus on for a change. Both of them headed for parts unknown, as I am sure they thought I was going off the deep end. They were very quiet the rest of the evening.

Things are not running as smoothly as I had hoped. I have been through this before, with two adult cats and it worked out eventually. Miley is so darn whiney and screams every time Ti comes near her. That sets him off on a major league challenge to GET HER. Then everything goes right to hell. It is so difficult to listen to..... I have such a peaceful house and for me to yell like that is upsetting to me too.

So Kelly, don't feel as though you have given up - just changed your plan. Some cats are not meant to be in a herd, some are. I hope my two change their minds. It seems to me that it took weeks when I had the last two adults get mixed up (not including Gabe, who fit in so very nicely....)....

Sometimes things just do not work out. We have all been there!

Concentrate on your current furry friends - and let Oliver go to a different home.....You gave him a chance.

Sas