Rant.

[Catty1]

Yes, Bri's mom is a single mom. I gather from what Bri has said that her mom is either unable or unwilling to find work.

There is not much Bri can do financially, IMO. I meant that Bri's mom needs to find a way to come up with money. Whether she qualifies for disability because of her health, or decides to find work, the responsibility is hers.

I hope and pray that all goes well, Bri.

[carole]

yes well i can understand how difficult it can be, i was a solo parent for ten years myself, so until you have walked in those shoes ,it is hard to understand what it is like, it is not an easy road, i also wonder how much Bri's dad is in the picture and whether he can help out financially.

Again i must stress i feel for both parties here, i think it is very hard on both of them,it sounds like Bri's mother has had it tough and things are getting on top of her, she needs love and support i think,and yes i think Bri can help her there,after all is that not what her mother has given her for the last 19years, with much sacrifice too i imagine, which we do unconditionally as mothers, but i am sure Bri can give back too.,and i am sure she had already done that, just hang on in there Bri, i am sure there is some help out there for you,you just have to seek it.

I am glad you and your mother are not fighting anymore, i think you do need to band together in tough times and support each other.

HUGS to both of you.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Yikes - sorry to hear about the court thing. Do you have the money to pay the rent? Have you tried talking to the landlords? They don't want the hassle of going to court but they feel like you've backed them into a corner by thinking that you could live there for free.

In the landlord's defense, its not their job to notify you that you are behind. It was very generous of them to allow you the three months that you have had. I own a tri-plex and once had a tenant that always had an excuse on why he didn't pay rent. So every month I'd have to issue him a 72 hour notice to pay up or vacate. I finally got tired of it and gave him a 30 day notice to leave because I was tired of the bulls**t.

Sounds like you need to miss your class since your name is on the lease. The last thing you want now is a contempt of court problem.

We don't have money to pay the rent right now. My mom's doing good to keep our electricity and water on. She's going to try and call the trailer park this week, I'm assuming. It's all she can do.

They always send out late notices to people who pay their rent late/are past due. At least, they USED to. So, yeah, I know it wasn't their job, but I still think they should have done something other than just automatically serve us with court papers.

I'm pretty sure I have to go to court too. I had to sign a paper or something, I guess saying that I would be there. So, guess I'm going.

Yes, Bri's mom is a single mom. I gather from what Bri has said that her mom is either unable or unwilling to find work.

There is not much Bri can do financially, IMO. I meant that Bri's mom needs to find a way to come up with money. Whether she qualifies for disability because of her health, or decides to find work, the responsibility is hers.

I hope and pray that all goes well, Bri.

She's unwilling but kind of unable too. She doesn't think anyone will hire her or that she'd be capable of doing it. She has a lot of health problems and she is getting older. (My mom is 58.)

It is her responsibility, but if I had the money I'd help her out.

Thank you.

yes well i can understand how difficult it can be, i was a solo parent for ten years myself, so until you have walked in those shoes ,it is hard to understand what it is like, it is not an easy road, i also wonder how much Bri's dad is in the picture and whether he can help out financially.

Again i must stress i feel for both parties here, i think it is very hard on both of them,it sounds like Bri's mother has had it tough and things are getting on top of her, she needs love and support i think,and yes i think Bri can help her there,after all is that not what her mother has given her for the last 19years, with much sacrifice too i imagine, which we do unconditionally as mothers, but i am sure Bri can give back too.,and i am sure she had already done that, just hang on in there Bri, i am sure there is some help out there for you,you just have to seek it.

I am glad you and your mother are not fighting anymore, i think you do need to band together in tough times and support each other.

HUGS to both of you.

My dad pays her $50/week child support, which is $200 a month. We've asked him for help before, and it's usually not worth the effort. Mainly because of his awful wife and the fact that he's caring for 3 other people, so even though I was there first, I seem to come last in the situation.

It is very hard for both of us. And I know my mom is having a rough time so I try to be there for her. She did raise me for the past 19 years, and I help her when I can.

Thank you for the hugs.

[carole]

Bri i really do understand completely how hard it must be for both of you, i also know when i was raising my son i had no help from the father, he was supporting four other children, and they were not even his,just like you my son was last too, and it hurts you and your mother so much.

Because i have walked in your mothers shoes, i really can relate to her difficulties, i was fortunate to have parents who could and would help me out financially,if it was not for them, i hate to think where i would be today,your mother is a few years older than me, so it is tough to get out there, today's work force is so different from our day, so technical, and i think she just lacks self confidence and that can really hold you back.

I sure hope things really can turn around for you both, it is hard for you to have to step up ,when at 19 life should just be fun,fun,fun, i get that,but stick together and hopefully things will improve, i know it is extremely hard, and please understand i have never been down on you, i just get it from both of your perspectives,i really do, again many HUGS....

[Catty1]

I know your mom has not been well, Bri. I wonder if there is some kind of disability from the state or something she could apply for? It would sure take some pressure off her. She'd probably need a letter from a doctor, I would guess.

Prayers that all works out.

I'm glad you're getting along better too.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Thank you Carole

I know your mom has not been well, Bri. I wonder if there is some kind of disability from the state or something she could apply for? It would sure take some pressure off her. She'd probably need a letter from a doctor, I would guess.

Prayers that all works out.

I'm glad you're getting along better too.

She could apply for disability, but you have to have a doctor and all of these certifications and everything, and we haven't been able to find her a free doctor around here yet, though I've been looking. She needs one though as she's out of her diabetes medicines, and she kind of REALLY needs those. That could be part of the reason why she's grumpy.

If she started the disability application process, it would take a long time too. You get denied for it at least once before you get it. Could take over a year or more.

[pomtzu]

Bri - Don't take this wrong, but you really need to stop making excuses for your mother. She needs to apply for assistance and see a doctor. I never heard of a FREE doctor, and if she is out of diabetes meds, what's she going to do??? - end up in the local emergency room (if she's lucky and makes it that far)??? And as far as disability goes - well you really don't have that correct. Yes there are forms to fill out, and if she truly is disabled and unable to work and a doctor deems it so, it doesn't mean that she will automatically be denied once, or that it takes a year or more. I've been on disability since I was 61. I was told by Social Security that after my forms were filled out and received and reviewed, that it would probably be 3 months before I heard anything one way or the other. In a matter of 3 weeks I had my approval - and I was never initially denied. Whoever is telling you differently, is giving you a worst case scenario, and your mother will never know anything if she doesn't take action - see a doctor - and get the ball rolling. She has to go to them - they are not going to come to her.

And another thing I don't understand - how are the 2 of you living on only $200 each month. I don't see how that is in any way possible.