Rant.

[Roxyluvsme13]

My mom and I are on much better terms with each other and getting along better and not arguing much, if at all.

BUT...

We're kind of getting sued for money. So that's not helping things.

[Karen]

My mom and I are on much better terms with each other and getting along better and not arguing much, if at all.

BUT...

We're kind of getting sued for money. So that's not helping things.

What are you getting sued about, and who is bringing the suit?

[Roxyluvsme13]

What are you getting sued about, and who is bringing the suit?

It's for lot rent for our trailer. We're like 3 months behind on lot rent, so the trailer park is taking us to court over it... They didn't even sent out any notices about it or contact us about it, and we didn't know until this sheriff deputy showed up on our porch today and had my mom and I sign something and gave us a court date (which happens to occur during one of my classes, so how am I supposed to go? )

[Karen]

It's for lot rent for our trailer. We're like 3 months behind on lot rent, so the trailer park is taking us to court over it... They didn't even sent out any notices about it or contact us about it, and we didn't know until this sheriff deputy showed up on our porch today and had my mom and I sign something and gave us a court date (which happens to occur during one of my classes, so how am I supposed to go? )

Is there a contact number for someone you can call to change the date to a time when you can actually be there? Did you know you were even behind?

[Roxyluvsme13]

Is there a contact number for someone you can call to change the date to a time when you can actually be there? Did you know you were even behind?

My mom's going to contact the office of the park here, (if she can get in contact with them, I see this as highly unlikely because we've tried to contact them before), and figure out what she can do.

And yeah, we knew we were behind, but we figured they were going to send out a notice about it, because that's what they usually do, but they didn't do that. Just served us with court papers.

[Catty1]

Bri, I don't think you should be involved in this too much. Your mom is the one who hasn't bothered to get a job and these are the consequences of that.

All I mean is - she has to be the mom and you the daughter. Not the other way around.

{{{hugs}}}

[carole]

Hmm sometimes parents need support too, is bri mother a solo parent, ? if so that means life has been more difficult,and not as straight forward as some have it, i feel for both parties involved.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Well, it's my home too, that's how I look at it. And since my name is on our lease, I got served with the court papers too. And I'm supposed to show up in court.

Yes, my mom is a single mom.

[caseysmom]

Well, it's my home too, that's how I look at it. And since my name is on our lease, I got served with the court papers too. And I'm supposed to show up in court.

Yes, my mom is a single mom.

Your mom should be able to show up and say your in college and in class.

[catland]

Yikes - sorry to hear about the court thing. Do you have the money to pay the rent? Have you tried talking to the landlords? They don't want the hassle of going to court but they feel like you've backed them into a corner by thinking that you could live there for free.

In the landlord's defense, its not their job to notify you that you are behind. It was very generous of them to allow you the three months that you have had. I own a tri-plex and once had a tenant that always had an excuse on why he didn't pay rent. So every month I'd have to issue him a 72 hour notice to pay up or vacate. I finally got tired of it and gave him a 30 day notice to leave because I was tired of the bulls**t.

Sounds like you need to miss your class since your name is on the lease. The last thing you want now is a contempt of court problem.

[caseysmom]

Yikes - sorry to hear about the court thing. Do you have the money to pay the rent? Have you tried talking to the landlords? They don't want the hassle of going to court but they feel like you've backed them into a corner by thinking that you could live there for free.

In the landlord's defense, its not their job to notify you that you are behind. It was very generous of them to allow you the three months that you have had. I own a tri-plex and once had a tenant that always had an excuse on why he didn't pay rent. So every month I'd have to issue him a 72 hour notice to pay up or vacate. I finally got tired of it and gave him a 30 day notice to leave because I was tired of the bulls**t.

Sounds like you need to miss your class since your name is on the lease. The last thing you want now is a contempt of court problem.

Unless she is being subpoenad that would most likely not be the case, the court date is her mom's day to go plead her case before getting a 30 day notice.

[Catty1]

Yes, Bri's mom is a single mom. I gather from what Bri has said that her mom is either unable or unwilling to find work.

There is not much Bri can do financially, IMO. I meant that Bri's mom needs to find a way to come up with money. Whether she qualifies for disability because of her health, or decides to find work, the responsibility is hers.

I hope and pray that all goes well, Bri.

[carole]

yes well i can understand how difficult it can be, i was a solo parent for ten years myself, so until you have walked in those shoes ,it is hard to understand what it is like, it is not an easy road, i also wonder how much Bri's dad is in the picture and whether he can help out financially.

Again i must stress i feel for both parties here, i think it is very hard on both of them,it sounds like Bri's mother has had it tough and things are getting on top of her, she needs love and support i think,and yes i think Bri can help her there,after all is that not what her mother has given her for the last 19years, with much sacrifice too i imagine, which we do unconditionally as mothers, but i am sure Bri can give back too.,and i am sure she had already done that, just hang on in there Bri, i am sure there is some help out there for you,you just have to seek it.

I am glad you and your mother are not fighting anymore, i think you do need to band together in tough times and support each other.

HUGS to both of you.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Yikes - sorry to hear about the court thing. Do you have the money to pay the rent? Have you tried talking to the landlords? They don't want the hassle of going to court but they feel like you've backed them into a corner by thinking that you could live there for free.

In the landlord's defense, its not their job to notify you that you are behind. It was very generous of them to allow you the three months that you have had. I own a tri-plex and once had a tenant that always had an excuse on why he didn't pay rent. So every month I'd have to issue him a 72 hour notice to pay up or vacate. I finally got tired of it and gave him a 30 day notice to leave because I was tired of the bulls**t.

Sounds like you need to miss your class since your name is on the lease. The last thing you want now is a contempt of court problem.

We don't have money to pay the rent right now. My mom's doing good to keep our electricity and water on. She's going to try and call the trailer park this week, I'm assuming. It's all she can do.

They always send out late notices to people who pay their rent late/are past due. At least, they USED to. So, yeah, I know it wasn't their job, but I still think they should have done something other than just automatically serve us with court papers.

I'm pretty sure I have to go to court too. I had to sign a paper or something, I guess saying that I would be there. So, guess I'm going.

Yes, Bri's mom is a single mom. I gather from what Bri has said that her mom is either unable or unwilling to find work.

There is not much Bri can do financially, IMO. I meant that Bri's mom needs to find a way to come up with money. Whether she qualifies for disability because of her health, or decides to find work, the responsibility is hers.

I hope and pray that all goes well, Bri.

She's unwilling but kind of unable too. She doesn't think anyone will hire her or that she'd be capable of doing it. She has a lot of health problems and she is getting older. (My mom is 58.)

It is her responsibility, but if I had the money I'd help her out.

Thank you.

yes well i can understand how difficult it can be, i was a solo parent for ten years myself, so until you have walked in those shoes ,it is hard to understand what it is like, it is not an easy road, i also wonder how much Bri's dad is in the picture and whether he can help out financially.

Again i must stress i feel for both parties here, i think it is very hard on both of them,it sounds like Bri's mother has had it tough and things are getting on top of her, she needs love and support i think,and yes i think Bri can help her there,after all is that not what her mother has given her for the last 19years, with much sacrifice too i imagine, which we do unconditionally as mothers, but i am sure Bri can give back too.,and i am sure she had already done that, just hang on in there Bri, i am sure there is some help out there for you,you just have to seek it.

I am glad you and your mother are not fighting anymore, i think you do need to band together in tough times and support each other.

HUGS to both of you.

My dad pays her $50/week child support, which is $200 a month. We've asked him for help before, and it's usually not worth the effort. Mainly because of his awful wife and the fact that he's caring for 3 other people, so even though I was there first, I seem to come last in the situation.

It is very hard for both of us. And I know my mom is having a rough time so I try to be there for her. She did raise me for the past 19 years, and I help her when I can.

Thank you for the hugs.

[carole]

Bri i really do understand completely how hard it must be for both of you, i also know when i was raising my son i had no help from the father, he was supporting four other children, and they were not even his,just like you my son was last too, and it hurts you and your mother so much.

Because i have walked in your mothers shoes, i really can relate to her difficulties, i was fortunate to have parents who could and would help me out financially,if it was not for them, i hate to think where i would be today,your mother is a few years older than me, so it is tough to get out there, today's work force is so different from our day, so technical, and i think she just lacks self confidence and that can really hold you back.

I sure hope things really can turn around for you both, it is hard for you to have to step up ,when at 19 life should just be fun,fun,fun, i get that,but stick together and hopefully things will improve, i know it is extremely hard, and please understand i have never been down on you, i just get it from both of your perspectives,i really do, again many HUGS....