I hope you don't mind me venting. A little lesson on friendship.

[cassiesmom]

Your friend phoned at 6 AM - that strikes me as excessively early. She "forgot" all your efforts around this person's trial?. She "missed" your phone messages. She points out that other friends sent cards and brought food.

You're not a bad person at all. I'm going to disagree with everyone who has already posted and say you're done with this relationship (I'm having a hard time referring to it as a friendship) for now. Someone who is truly your friend wouldn't awaken you at 6 AM to rant about actions she perceives that you haven't taken (such as sending enough cards, phoning often to express condolences, and delivering food). I say you're done until she works through her grief, and she's the one who owes you the apology. Spend the baby-sitting money on YOU!

HUGS,
elyse

[carole]

Donna i think she is just overcome with grief and being over sensitive, i don't think i would go and buy a sympathy card now, bit late really, leave her be for a while, and then give her a call and see how she is,it is a shame she had to hurt your feelings like that, you know you are a great loving person, so don't feel bad, i am sure in time it will sort itself out, here's hoping, HUGS.

[Marigold2]

Sometimes grief overwelmes us and we lose control for a bit. Our pain is so deep............
Perhaps this is what happened.
Please know that you are a wonderful person and this is not your doing.
Continue please to be the great person you are and hopefully your friend will find her way back to common sense.

[carole]

well said marigold, exactly how i am thinking.