I hope you don't mind me venting. A little lesson on friendship.

[Medusa]

I wouldn't judge too harshly - at this point anyway. It sounds like she was pretty devastated by the passing of her dog, and maybe in the confusion and grief, somehow missed your message. Perhaps when you have the funds, you could send her a combo sympathy/friendship type of card, and include a handwritten message in it too. It would be a shame to have a friendship end because of a misunderstanding.

Ditto.

[moosmom]

Blue,

Of COURSE I like you!!!!! We agree to disagree, that's all. And I love our debates.

I'm going to give her time. I know she's hurting. But to say that I didn't care because Clyde was a dog instead of a cat really hurt.

I have some babysitting money and will go out and get a card and send it to her. After that I'm done.

[blue]

Blue,

Of COURSE I like you!!!!! We agree to disagree, that's all. And I love our debates.

I'm going to give her time. I know she's hurting. But to say that I didn't care because Clyde was a dog instead of a cat really hurt.

I have some babysitting money and will go out and get a card and send it to her. After that I'm done.

I enjoy the debates as well Donna.

To me actions speak louder then cards or letters. She may just need time to see that you werent being less of a friend because you didnt send something she can hold and read. She may be using the cards and notes as a way to get through and cope with her grief.

[caseysmom]

Cut her some slack, she is grieving and unfortunately lashing out at you. If she is a good friend she needs the understanding.

[moosmom]

I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. She and her Mom have been through a lot with Clyde. A real roller coaster ride, and I get that. What really hurt was the accusation that I didn't care because Clyde was "only a dog" and not a cat.

[Pinot's Mom]

I don't know, Donna, where your friend's rant came from. It just stuns me when I read situations like this; just unimaginable to me. I have many acquaintances, many friends, and several close friends. It is just unfathomable for any of us to have a conversation like that, so it is very hard for me to advise.

I have to agree there was grief involved and that had to be the basis. Try again to have a conversation later. That's all I can say. Good luck!

[Asiel]

Try to remember that she might not realize the extent of what she says if she's grieving deeply. Give her time to get over it, sometimes it can be a long hard process. I'm sure she didn't mean it to sound so cruel. Don't be in a hurry to throw that frienship down the drain. True friends are hard to come by and we should cherish them even if they do sometimes hurt us. Even if you have to make a card, might mean a lot to her knowing you went to the trouble, but even a store bought card with a personal memo inside will make her realize she was a bit too harsh...

[caseysmom]

Just wanted to add although I know your more a cat person I have always seen you show lots of compassion for doggies too, never got that from you that you would feel different because it was a dog.