The wedding is off, but...

[Marigold2]

Gosh I wish them all happiness.
Here is another thought.
Why get married at all? Why not just live together and see if that works.
And in five years or seven years if you still want to get married then go ahead and make it a really big splash.
In the meantime you get to save money, get to know yourself and your partner better, see what kind of a team you make. If that person is as loving and supportive, understand, kind, faithful, steady, hardworking, loyal, honest and sober and sane as you thought.
You both have time to grow up, grow stronger, get a better job or education. You then bring more into the marriage.
Getting divorced is expensive and a heartache as anyone who has read Queen of Poop's tread can tell.
Sometimes people live together and find out this is not the right person for them and it is a lot easier then a divorce lawyer and a lot easier on the heart and sometimes they get married and it still does not work but at least in the mean time you take each other for a time in good faith and love and see how it goes.
Love is not enough, especially if one or both is mentally ill or a substance abuser of any kind.
Best of luck ot all.

[Catty1]

And sometimes people live together, do just fine, and THEN get married and it all falls apart. I have no idea why, but I have heard about this a lot.

Whatever works for them, I guess that is the best way to play it.

[Vette]

Oh i hope they have many many happy years ahead i wish them both the best of luck

[moosmom]

I'll bet you're breathing a sigh of relief!!!! I only WISH my daughter would elope.