thank you all.. I knew I was not crazy...

hereīs what happened.. bit long but I need to vent..

I went over.. they were kinda surprised I was there and asked why.. I told them i was picking my kid up.. my FIL was sort of ok.. but not my MIL.. she asked why.. I told her because he had to do homework, sleep early and such and that I would bring him back on the weekend just as we had talked about before..

well.. she wasnīt satisfied with that answer and asked again.. but why are you taking him.. and i told her that I just had told her why... yet again she seemed to not understand.. so i added.. he needed a routine from monday-friday.. just as we have had.. especially as he has just started in a new school with new teachers and new methods.. and that i needed to be there with him so I could settle my routine too.. so we could adjust to the change and that I could make it easier for him..

still not convinced she added.. he can do homeworks here (which by the time I arrived he hadnīt so we stayed up late finishing it up).. and itīs better for him.. he doesnīt needs to get confused (wouldnīt he be more confused if i left him there.. I mean no dad.. and then no mom??.. come on) besides he has a great time here (no doubt about it.. if I were only playing I would too)...

FIL said to her.. let him go.. he can come back on the weekend.. but MIL would just not back off... she even said that she wasnīt trying to take my place (really..) and he wanted the best for him.. (well.. newsflash!! I do too).. and added that my husband always wanted that but I never let him (ok.. what are you talking about?!..giving our kid to you?.. you seriously canīt be serious about that! I know he didnīt).. so now Iīm the bad person that had her son under control.. yeah right.. like if ever.. whatever decision we made it was made between us BOTH.. not because I said so.. like if I had that power..

I took him home... but really they did made it tough for me.. and whatīs worse she said.. "I bet your mom lectured you so he didnīt stayed here".. of course I told her.. "what does my mom has to do here at all".. for me itīs just as easy to go to my home and divide weekends between you two.. but my furniture hasnīt arrived and I have no car (my car is in their garage).. but my mom has no saying in my decisions..

she just made a face..

then they both asked when i was taking the car.. I said as soon as i had a place so i could sell it.. and they said.. but remember half of it is of my other son.. WTH??!!.. half of it??.. donīt these people realize my husband sold our two cars to get a brand new one.. then gave that one to his brother in exchange for this one AND still was paying for another car to compensate the difference.. and now they want half of it??..

I was so close into saying.. you know what.. here are the papers of the car take them.. sell it, gift it away I donīt care.. but then I thought.. the least I deserve is to get my car back and whatever amount my husband payed for it, then you can have it.. itīs just as fair.. and they donīt need a car.. they have the one my husband was paying off to compensate the car exchange difference.. I have NO car at all.. yeah my folks have been moving me around.. but I had two cars to start with.. then upgraded for another.. and now they want me to have non.. or half of it.. have they ever thought of not my needs but their grandchildren... their ONLY grandchildren..

I kind of want to understand their reasoning because of the pain.. but I AM in pain too!!.. I have no job, no car, two kids (one in school one on the way), a house and bills to pay and no money in the bank.. Iīm still trying to figure out is the hubs had any insurance but I have to wait 3 months for the company to tell me.. why? I have no clue ... what do they need??!!.. give me a break!.. I am not a material person.. I will give it to them.. but my plans were to sell it.. buy a smaller, cheaper car were we all could fit in and use the rest towards MY KIDS school and needs until I got a steady income... my folks have been awesome... they have chipped in so I could get thing moving.. (school and paying the movers).. but i donīt wanna add 3 kids (me and my own) to their expenses...

ughh...I really donīt want or need to fight with them.. nor keep them away from my children.. but they sure donīt make it any easier... they really never liked me or my ways.. and only because Iīm not exactly like them.. but we canīt all be the same... I am who I am... too bad I donīt have my hubby to back me up.. in the years we were together (12) he certainly opened his eyes a bit and made his own choices but not because I "forced" him to.. but of course in their eyes I did..

Iīm deeply sad.. but this issues make me so mad.. that my tears have turned into frustration and anger.. and I so donīt want that..

sorry for my huge vent.. but I just donīt get them.. I just donīt... why make things even more difficult.. I donīt know...