I knew this would happen..

[Karen]

Tell them you know they miss their son, but as you recently lost your husband, and your son lost his father, you'd rather not disrupt his life more by leaving him with them. Keeping a regular routine is important for children, and you would like to do that as much as possible. And when the baby arrives, it will be important for him to be home to get to know his new sister, as he will be a way for her to learn about their father.

[DJFyrewolf36]

Tell them you know they miss their son, but as you recently lost your husband, and your son lost his father, you'd rather not disrupt his life more by leaving him with them. Keeping a regular routine is important for children, and you would like to do that as much as possible. And when the baby arrives, it will be important for him to be home to get to know his new sister, as he will be a way for her to learn about their father.

I couldn't have said it better. *Hugs* Sorry people are making it harder for you.

[moosmom]

What Karen said.

Hang in there, girl! You and your family are in my thoughts in prayers.

[Freedom]

Oh Isabel, I am sorry you have to cope with this as well.

Yes, just stand firm in your plans. Not easy, I am sure.

[phesina]

I am so sorry, Isabel, that you and your son now have to deal with this on top of everything else.

You are absolutely right, and I join everyone else in encouraging you to stand firm in your plans. I thought Karen put the reasons why very well in a firm but tactful way to make your point.

God bless you all, including your in-laws, because you are all going through a great deal of pain.

Love from Pat (and cats)

[Taz_Zoee]

Karen said it perfectly.
I also understand they lost their son, and their grandson is sort of like filling that void. But he is YOUR son and he does need a routine, especially right now. They're going to have to accept seeing him on weekends.
I'm so sorry they are causing you more pain and stress.
Hugs!!

[carole]

Isabel i agree with you and the others too, i do feel that they are grieving as you are, they have lost two sons, and i think they are living through your son for now, i am sure in time as the pain heals for all things will return to normal, you are right to take a stand and stick with it, your son needs stability right now and to be with his mother,just need to gently point that out to them i think, my heart goes out to you and i hope things can sort themselves out regarding this problem,you certainly don't need anything on top of already what you are going through GIANT HUGS.

[Asiel]

What Karen said--- I'm so sorry to see you go through this after your tragic loss. I'm sure your in-laws mean well but the sooner you set the bounderies the sooner things will smooth over.