Deleted my thread

**Asiel** · 06-30-2010, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by shais_mom

I don't understand the hand slap to Sara but yet Marigold can commit virtual murder and nothing is said??

back to facebook

Very well said , I've noticed a lot of back stabbing here myself lately and for no reason at all. This is supposed to be an open forum where one can dicuss but it seems nobody can disagree with certain tasteless posts without being attacked and the whole thing turns nasty.
I for one was highly hurt by that "veggie salad" term but ignored it for fear of "hurting" a drama queen.

**shais_mom** · 06-30-2010, 08:31 PM

thanks Asiel.

**shais_mom** · 06-30-2010, 08:43 PM

Originally Posted by lvpets2002

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

actually she isn't that young, she's on the closer side to 30 then 20. I don't think it has anything to do with her age, just her personality, and while there isn't anything wrong with that, it was kind of abrasive to read it that way. But admittedly I even said to myself "I never would have thought of it that way". Doesn't make it right or wrong - just different.
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I suppose since I don't post here as much anymore I shouldn't have had an opinion but that hasn't stopped me or anyone else before so why start now.

I understand giving people 2 or 4 or 999 chances, but when every post marigold posts is something nasty, negative, demeaning, making fun of someone's body shape, style, smell, or mental capacity. I don't understand why she isn't banned when people have been banned for less. I mean a lot of dogs won't bite the hand that beats it until its hit its breaking point either, but good grief. When the woman spreads discord like some people spread grass seed - something needs to change. She isn't banned and if she IS privately asked to shape or or ship out and doesn't and doesn't and doesn't then if she isn't removing herself, my natural instinct is to remove myself. So I did. I miss my friends yes, but I miss the way PT was without her in it.
This whole scenario reminds me of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Marigold and that crazy Danielle might as well be one and the same! Its like The Real Housewives(and househusbands?) of PET TALK! The NJ housewives are removing themselves from being filmed b/c they are scared of "D" and her friends and her repercussions. Sound familiar??

**RICHARD** · 06-30-2010, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by shais_mom

This whole scenario reminds me of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Marigold and that crazy Danielle might as well be one and the same! Its like The Real Housewives(and househusbands?) of PET TALK! The NJ housewives are removing themselves from being filmed b/c they are scared of "D" and her friends and her repercussions. Sound familiar??

I like the NY women better,

That Kelly is a space cadet.

**Medusa** · 06-30-2010, 10:12 PM

I was going to refrain from posting but I feel that I have to speak up. Yes, Marigold has said some insensitive remarks, it's true. So have we all at one time or another, if not on PT, then at other times in other places. I'm not defending her remarks, just gently reminding us all, myself included, that she's part of the PT family.

A few years ago when I was oh so sad b/c I didn't know if my son would be able to come home for Christmas, I posted about it and she immediately PM'd me and invited me to spend Christmas w/her family. She gave me her phone number and directions to her home. She didn't really "know" me but she had enough compassion for me and trust in me to do that. As it turned out, I didn't go b/c the weather was horrible and I was afraid to drive that far in bad weather and perhaps drive back at night w/my lousy night vision. We spoke on the phone and again she comforted me and told me that I was welcome to join her family for the festivities. I will always remember her kindness when I needed it most. She just recently posted about rescuing a baby raccoon that, sadly, needed to be PTS. That was our opportunity to see a side of her that I wish we could see more of and to assure her that she did a good thing.

I hope that she's learned from all of this. I sure have.

**Edwina's Secretary** · 06-30-2010, 11:58 PM

Originally Posted by Asiel

Thank you for having the courage to admit the mistake, I have no idea how my post got twisted up like that but I'm glad everyone realizes it wasn't my post.

It does not take courage to apologize. Just honesty.

I do not know how I should have posted so some people did not think it you who posted it. It never occurred to me that anyone would think that. For that I apologize.

And for causing you any grief I apologize.

**caseysmom** · 07-01-2010, 12:02 AM

On a lighter note ES how is the queen doing?

**Killearn Kitties** · 07-01-2010, 07:01 AM

Originally Posted by Karen

No, I was saying that as the thread was about Marigold's posts being upsetting to people, mentioning other posts of hers that bothered you would be pertinent to the thread at hand.

Does that explain it better?

Thank you Karen. I thought you were losing your marbles last night, but here it was only me! Having read it again, I understand perfectly what you said.

**moosmom** · 07-01-2010, 08:01 AM

RICHARD,

Did you know I have a giant pimple on my forehead today.

Tomorrow?

Who knows

A boil on your butt, perhaps??

**smokey the elder** · 07-01-2010, 08:15 AM

Folks, please keep in mind the one-dimensionality (is that even a word?

) of the written word without vocal or body language cues. If I see something dodgy, I just think about it first.

Hijack alert: There are some things said (I won't get specific to protect the guilty) that really rub me the wrong way, but then I realize that opinions are like...you know. Everyone has one and they all stink to someone!

**moosmom** · 07-01-2010, 09:45 AM

Smokey the Elder,

opinions are like...you know. Everyone has one and they all stink to someone!

LMAO!!

**Asiel** · 07-01-2010, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by Edwina's Secretary

It does not take courage to apologize. Just honesty.

I do not know how I should have posted so some people did not think it you who posted it. It never occurred to me that anyone would think that. For that I apologize.

And for causing you any grief I apologize.

No need for an apology, no grief caused. Proves how hard it is to post something without it being seen the wrong way, a lot harder to respond in a post than when you're face to face. Honesty apprecaited.

**Marigold2** · 07-06-2010, 10:10 AM

You know Mary you are always welcome here.
We might not always agree but I have such respect and love for you. Doesn't matter that we have never met, I love you just the same for your intelligence, wit and kindness. I am not always the most tactful person here but I am honest.
And yes I have learned a lot. Learned about people in a way that surprised me.
I have learned that if I make a general comment about something, some will take offense for they see themselves in that comment when it was never thought of or directed toward them. They take offense when none was meant, it's within themselves that the offense takes place.
I am not one to take offense easily so it is hard for me to understand when people are so sensitive to any random comment.
But as I have said I have learned.
I have also learned to use the ignore button, tis lovely.
Anyway....
Several of you asked me to repost the pictures and I have. It is in general under Mgrandson.

Originally Posted by Medusa

I was going to refrain from posting but I feel that I have to speak up. Yes, Marigold has said some insensitive remarks, it's true. So have we all at one time or another, if not on PT, then at other times in other places. I'm not defending her remarks, just gently reminding us all, myself included, that she's part of the PT family.

A few years ago when I was oh so sad b/c I didn't know if my son would be able to come home for Christmas, I posted about it and she immediately PM'd me and invited me to spend Christmas w/her family. She gave me her phone number and directions to her home. She didn't really "know" me but she had enough compassion for me and trust in me to do that. As it turned out, I didn't go b/c the weather was horrible and I was afraid to drive that far in bad weather and perhaps drive back at night w/my lousy night vision. We spoke on the phone and again she comforted me and told me that I was welcome to join her family for the festivities. I will always remember her kindness when I needed it most. She just recently posted about rescuing a baby raccoon that, sadly, needed to be PTS. That was our opportunity to see a side of her that I wish we could see more of and to assure her that she did a good thing.

I hope that she's learned from all of this. I sure have.

**caseysmom** · 07-06-2010, 11:13 AM

Your incorrect in this, if I take offense often it is for the people you are offending not for myself. That is what makes some of us have empathy.

**Cataholic** · 07-06-2010, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by Marigold2

I have learned that if I make a general comment about something, some will take offense for they see themselves in that comment when it was never thought of or directed toward them. They take offense when none was meant, it's within themselves that the offense takes place.

I am not one to take offense easily so it is hard for me to understand when people are so sensitive to any random comment

Let's see, I am neither uneducated, overweight, of Mexican heritage, poor, on public assistance, non-english speaking, in need of cosmetic surgery, nor in a vegatative state. THOSE were the "issues" that drew my ire (and others) in your postings. You just don't or can't get it.

Maybe the latter part of the quoted piece explains more than we know. And, for the ones that want to jump in for your defense, that last line in the quoted piece was but a thinly veiled insult. Again. From the person that has 'learned'.

Uh huh.