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[lvpets2002]

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

In any case the thread about Cam getting spayed has been deleted by the poster.

[Cataholic]

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

I believe you are mistaken. According to Jess, she didn't misuse a word. She posted it as she thought it was a humorous/funny way to describe it. She knew what she was posting. Frankly, from your description of Jess, you seem to think she is an imbecile with no command of the english language. She is far from either. She simply used a phrase many thought tasteless. Not a death sentance, not a punishable offense...simply a poor choice of words, that even you acknowledge.

I believe I mentioned this before to you, that YOU don't see something worth posting about is fine. Don't post. That doesn't mean others have the same opinion. This "hold hands and sing along" thing is nice, in theory, I suppose. But, not everyone feels like this.

I haven't seen anyone make a claim of perfection on here. I don't think any of this is about making genuine mistakes, or mispeaking. If you think that, then I don't think you did read the original thread (I am not referring to Jess's). I can never remember my quotes and the authors of them. Certainly, I do not claim this as mine. But, someone famous said something along the lines of, "he who stands for nothing, falls for everything". I think it is appropriate here.

No one needs to look in the mirror, no one needs to feel ganged up on, there are no secret societies (that I am aware of). This board is comprised of a group of people with vast and varied degree of experiences. There are many opinions, some people are comfortable expressing their's, and some are not. Some people avoid conflict, some are conflict driven. (I probably fall in the latter category, in case any one wonders.)

It is irksome to have anyone (not just the government) attempt to quiet those that dissent, or don't share the majority opinion. I feel irked when someone tells me I shouldn't have/share opinions on a public board.

[Taz_Zoee]

I'm all for sharing opinions. It's just the way they are delivered or how others receive them that appears to be the problem starter.
It will never be all sun shiney and perfect on here. I've learned to accept that fact. I'm one that tends to avoid conflict.

[RICHARD]

This "hold hands and sing along" thing is nice, in theory, I suppose.

Let's give it a try.....wipe you hands on your pant legs, everyone hold hands and....

Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, the Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's laughing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's laughing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's laughing, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Hear me crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me crying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's crying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Hear me singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me singing, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's praying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Hear me praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me praying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's singing, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Oh, I need you, Lord, kum bay ya;
Oh, I need you, Lord, kum bay ya;
Oh, I need you, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.



I feel better already, It didn't hurt and some you can't sing.

[Cataholic]

I never knew the words to that song. Thanks!

[RICHARD]

See, ya feel better already!

All we need is a campfire, chocolate bars, marshmallows and graham crackers.



Rock on.

[Cataholic]

Those are the 4th of July plans this weekend, for sure! S'mores all around.

Here's the thing...I don't get mad or upset or angry or anything about stuff on here. If I get irked at all, it is momentary. I can post passionately without being emotionally vested in something. I do it day in and day out, professionally. I actually laughed out loud recently when someone accused me of being angry cause of what I posted.

I get mad, angry, upset over the injustices done to animals, the emails that flood my inbox, the dog that won't go potty in front of me cause he was apparently beat, the stray cats running around my sister's house, the dead animals, and of course, all the human attrocities, too. The 3 year old that was touched by the 14 year old, who then got slapped by an adult, who got charged with assualt. THAT stuff gets me.

[shais_mom]

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

actually she isn't that young, she's on the closer side to 30 then 20. I don't think it has anything to do with her age, just her personality, and while there isn't anything wrong with that, it was kind of abrasive to read it that way. But admittedly I even said to myself "I never would have thought of it that way". Doesn't make it right or wrong - just different.
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I suppose since I don't post here as much anymore I shouldn't have had an opinion but that hasn't stopped me or anyone else before so why start now. I understand giving people 2 or 4 or 999 chances, but when every post marigold posts is something nasty, negative, demeaning, making fun of someone's body shape, style, smell, or mental capacity. I don't understand why she isn't banned when people have been banned for less. I mean a lot of dogs won't bite the hand that beats it until its hit its breaking point either, but good grief. When the woman spreads discord like some people spread grass seed - something needs to change. She isn't banned and if she IS privately asked to shape or or ship out and doesn't and doesn't and doesn't then if she isn't removing herself, my natural instinct is to remove myself. So I did. I miss my friends yes, but I miss the way PT was without her in it.
This whole scenario reminds me of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Marigold and that crazy Danielle might as well be one and the same! Its like The Real Housewives(and househusbands?) of PET TALK! The NJ housewives are removing themselves from being filmed b/c they are scared of "D" and her friends and her repercussions. Sound familiar??

[RICHARD]

This whole scenario reminds me of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Marigold and that crazy Danielle might as well be one and the same! Its like The Real Housewives(and househusbands?) of PET TALK! The NJ housewives are removing themselves from being filmed b/c they are scared of "D" and her friends and her repercussions. Sound familiar??

I like the NY women better,

That Kelly is a space cadet.

[Medusa]

I was going to refrain from posting but I feel that I have to speak up. Yes, Marigold has said some insensitive remarks, it's true. So have we all at one time or another, if not on PT, then at other times in other places. I'm not defending her remarks, just gently reminding us all, myself included, that she's part of the PT family.

A few years ago when I was oh so sad b/c I didn't know if my son would be able to come home for Christmas, I posted about it and she immediately PM'd me and invited me to spend Christmas w/her family. She gave me her phone number and directions to her home. She didn't really "know" me but she had enough compassion for me and trust in me to do that. As it turned out, I didn't go b/c the weather was horrible and I was afraid to drive that far in bad weather and perhaps drive back at night w/my lousy night vision. We spoke on the phone and again she comforted me and told me that I was welcome to join her family for the festivities. I will always remember her kindness when I needed it most. She just recently posted about rescuing a baby raccoon that, sadly, needed to be PTS. That was our opportunity to see a side of her that I wish we could see more of and to assure her that she did a good thing.

I hope that she's learned from all of this. I sure have.

[Marigold2]

You know Mary you are always welcome here.
We might not always agree but I have such respect and love for you. Doesn't matter that we have never met, I love you just the same for your intelligence, wit and kindness. I am not always the most tactful person here but I am honest.
And yes I have learned a lot. Learned about people in a way that surprised me.
I have learned that if I make a general comment about something, some will take offense for they see themselves in that comment when it was never thought of or directed toward them. They take offense when none was meant, it's within themselves that the offense takes place.
I am not one to take offense easily so it is hard for me to understand when people are so sensitive to any random comment.
But as I have said I have learned.
I have also learned to use the ignore button, tis lovely.
Anyway....
Several of you asked me to repost the pictures and I have. It is in general under Mgrandson.

I was going to refrain from posting but I feel that I have to speak up. Yes, Marigold has said some insensitive remarks, it's true. So have we all at one time or another, if not on PT, then at other times in other places. I'm not defending her remarks, just gently reminding us all, myself included, that she's part of the PT family.

A few years ago when I was oh so sad b/c I didn't know if my son would be able to come home for Christmas, I posted about it and she immediately PM'd me and invited me to spend Christmas w/her family. She gave me her phone number and directions to her home. She didn't really "know" me but she had enough compassion for me and trust in me to do that. As it turned out, I didn't go b/c the weather was horrible and I was afraid to drive that far in bad weather and perhaps drive back at night w/my lousy night vision. We spoke on the phone and again she comforted me and told me that I was welcome to join her family for the festivities. I will always remember her kindness when I needed it most. She just recently posted about rescuing a baby raccoon that, sadly, needed to be PTS. That was our opportunity to see a side of her that I wish we could see more of and to assure her that she did a good thing.

I hope that she's learned from all of this. I sure have.

[caseysmom]

Your incorrect in this, if I take offense often it is for the people you are offending not for myself. That is what makes some of us have empathy.

[Cataholic]

I have learned that if I make a general comment about something, some will take offense for they see themselves in that comment when it was never thought of or directed toward them. They take offense when none was meant, it's within themselves that the offense takes place.

I am not one to take offense easily so it is hard for me to understand when people are so sensitive to any random comment

Let's see, I am neither uneducated, overweight, of Mexican heritage, poor, on public assistance, non-english speaking, in need of cosmetic surgery, nor in a vegatative state. THOSE were the "issues" that drew my ire (and others) in your postings. You just don't or can't get it.

Maybe the latter part of the quoted piece explains more than we know. And, for the ones that want to jump in for your defense, that last line in the quoted piece was but a thinly veiled insult. Again. From the person that has 'learned'.

Uh huh.

[Bonny]

Caseysmom & Cataholic, WHATEVER YOUR LIKE A PAIR OF OLD BROKEN RECORDS.