Her and I were friends for over 15 years and went every where together all 400 lbs of her which I might add was difficult at times.
She could only sit on some of my furniture, had the hardest time getting out of my small Toyota, going to resturants was always fun as people would stare and point and snicker.
Also whenever we went somewhere she would have to sit down often which made going places difficult to say the least.
It was difficult being with her because the weight made her handicapped in many ways but that was not what bothered me.
The kids and I didn't mind what she looked like it was the negitive comments she made all the time to me and the kids.

No one is going to be there for you so get used to it kiddo.
Life is a b****.
Life is full of disappointments, so get used to it.
You have no one but yourself to count on everyone else will **** on you.
No one is ever there when I need them but I don't give a **** I can and will take care of myself.
Money honey is what makes the world go round.
Money is power and that is all people respect.
People will use you all the time.
People are ****, remember that.

This is how she talked ALL the time. This is what I meant by bitter and vile. This is what she would say to my kids and I would always teach them different by deed and action by love and words.
When she showed up and looked so ill and talked about going to therapy and how ill she is now (she looks 88 instead of 66) I listened and she is the same, still full of this vile. All this hate...........
My kids are grown now, my heartfelt question to myself and others is do you open your heart again to this type of person and try try try to show them that their is love and good in the world or is this a hopeless case and a self fulfilling prophecy.

She will go to her grave always unhappy... God that is sad especially for someone who had so much.