Would you let someone back into your life that has deep seated emotional problems? This person is alone in the world but it is because of the vile, hatred and mental issues she has. She showed up in my driveway the other night. Old now and on kidney dialyasis she has been heavy 400 lbs for much of her life, has lost about 180 now do to her health.
I so hate to turn my back on a fellow human being, she is in therapy or was but just does not see how her hatred and vile turn people away.
I listened to her talk for two hours in my driveway, (she did not want to come out of the car because she needs a walker) and it was as if no time had passed. At 66 she is still blaming her parents for a rotten childhood, he brothers for being evil and out to get her for money. She never married or had kids.
I just don't think I can do this folks. I can't listen to this same old complaints I heard 21 years ago. Yes she had a bad childhood but it was 55 years ago. Because she grew up with money she also had a ton of advantages most people don't have, almost unlimited funds which she spent on unlimited food to get to the 400 +lbs.
I want to be a good person, I hate the idea of turning my back on her because she is alone and so very very ill but I just don't think I can take the vile, the poor me, the everyone out to get me, the no one cares about me, I am so alone speech again and again and again.
She did do a lot for me in the past but decided to break the friendship six years ago and I never knew why, so I asked and she said "I don't remember I guess I thought you were siding with my brother".
I was stunned he has almost as many problems as she does.
If I make myself unavailable which is easy because I work a lot and do a lot of things with family and friends I will feel guilty because she is so old and ill and that would just comfirm her cries of no one cares about her.
On the other hand I just don't think I can handle all this hate and negitive and trying to always be positive and up and be there for her, she is almost a full time job once she attaches herself to you.
No one should be alone but ,,,,,,,,,,,,, guys I just don't know what to do.
My freinds who know her have given their advice now I need some from people who are distanced. Thanks