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**Marigold2** · 06-11-2010, 08:55 PM

It is NOT my decision on how many chances she will give him. It is there's and there's alone. It is my job to give love, support, forgiveness, understanding, a shoulder to cry on, a joke to share and maybe to babysit from time to time so they can go out and have some private time alone.
I consider that to be my jobs. Enough said.

**blue** · 06-11-2010, 11:44 PM

Marigold, from what I read, you did what any friend would. BTDT.

**Taz_Zoee** · 06-12-2010, 02:25 AM

Originally Posted by Marigold2

It is NOT my decision on how many chances she will give him. It is there's and there's alone. It is my job to give love, support, forgiveness, understanding, a shoulder to cry on, a joke to share and maybe to babysit from time to time so they can go out and have some private time alone.
I consider that to be my jobs. Enough said.

I know that. I wasn't saying you should have said anything about it. I was just stating my opinion. You know everyone has one. I'm not attacking you. Calm down.

**carole** · 06-12-2010, 08:01 PM

I so disagree that everything should be left to the professionals,so every time one has a problem do you go seek professional advice, i think not, usually you ask advice from those closest to you, whether they be family or friends, and you may even come here to PT or another board you belong to,as i said before life experiences mean a whole lot to me.

And as for Marigold being picked on, personally that is what i do see in nearly every thread she posts by the same people, anyhow that is how i see it,end of.

Monica you and you alone are the only one here who knows your two friends,if you are comfortable with what you have said and being there for them,then that is all that really matters, i wish them well, and i think it is good that they have someone who loves them as much as you do.

**Catty1** · 06-12-2010, 09:57 PM

Amen, Carole!

**blue** · 06-12-2010, 10:03 PM

I guess some of the posters in this thread would plug their ears and run away anytime their "friends" want to vent about anything troubling them, and yelling at them to "seek professional help and dont bother me with your problems!"

**snakemama** · 06-12-2010, 10:26 PM

Originally Posted by blue

I guess some of the posters in this thread would plug their ears and run away anytime their "friends" want to vent about anything troubling them, and yelling at them to "seek professional help and dont bother me with your problems!"

Holy smokes, I agree with you on something! Never thought I'd see the day...

**blue** · 06-12-2010, 10:32 PM

Originally Posted by snakemama

Holy smokes, I agree with you on something! Never thought I'd see the day...

**Marigold2** · 06-12-2010, 10:55 PM

Thanks guys for your support, it means a lot. When we love someone dearly we carry their pain with us in our hearts as well. I of course worry about them now, where once was a happy marriage is now a dreadful painful mess.
I just needed to share my feelings with my friends here. I needed a shoulder I guess and I did get that along with a couple of kicks but I guess that is the risk you take when you open your heart up.

**Queen of Poop** · 06-13-2010, 07:51 AM

Marigold, I still stand by my previous comment, I applaud you for being a friend to these people.

For the record, I am seeing a professional psychologist for help with what has been done to me over the last 8 years. She is a wonderful, caring, compassionate woman who I believe will help me survive and thrive. Her biggest thing for me, find more friends, build a better support system. Have others to be with, to care about, who will care about me and help me build back my confidence that has been so shattered. Friends she says will help me get back to me faster.

Marigold, I wish you were closer cause I'd truly want you to be one of my friends.

I need friends to help me thru this. Any takers?

**Marigold2** · 06-13-2010, 07:54 AM

Well I would be honored to be your friend. I posted on the other tread before reading this. I will PM you.

**Whisk_Luva** · 06-13-2010, 08:16 AM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

I need friends to help me thru this. Any takers?

If you ever want a friend I am here

**Karen** · 06-13-2010, 08:31 AM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

Marigold, I still stand by my previous comment, I applaud you for being a friend to these people.

For the record, I am seeing a professional psychologist for help with what has been done to me over the last 8 years. She is a wonderful, caring, compassionate woman who I believe will help me survive and thrive. Her biggest thing for me, find more friends, build a better support system. Have others to be with, to care about, who will care about me and help me build back my confidence that has been so shattered. Friends she says will help me get back to me faster.

Marigold, I wish you were closer cause I'd truly want you to be one of my friends.

I need friends to help me thru this. Any takers?

Of course you can count on me to be a friend. We needn't be geographically close to count, do we?

**pomtzu** · 06-13-2010, 08:58 AM

Selective reading always changes the way people see things.

I was talking "professional" help forMARRIAGE issues - not for every little problem that pops up in your life. I believe that was the problem that was originally addressed, wasn't it???? When did it change???

Anyway - have valuable and trusted friends to talk things over with, to ask opinions and advice, and all the other things mentioned here - just not marriage. Marriage advice was the only thing that I was referencinng!!!!!!!!!

**Catty1** · 06-13-2010, 09:51 AM

Gayle - yes! Let's meet up again. If you need a Sunday break, there are lovely red shale paths here to walk by the Bow River...and a couple of funky coffee/lunch places!

Call when you want to come out!