Actually I did ask my daughter, you see we had this converstation years ago and then agin last night. I was interested if her opinion had changed and it hadn't.
She said "don't worry mom I will wait a while before they disconnect you.
We both laughted and hugged.
If she was as this women is. Yes I would put her in a nursing home so she could get 24 hour care. I don't expect you to understand , but you don't need to.
This is just how our family feels. It doens't have to be how you feel. I think everyone has degrees of how long we would wait for someone to get better. You have to just feel it in your heart and know it is right.
I don't want my kids to have to put their life on hold for me. It's that simple.
Doesn't make me a bad mom or bad person.
How long would I wait for my daughter, well if the Dr said there is no hope, no brain activity, no change of her getting better, no change of a somewhat normal life or a chance to enjoy said life then I would not let her suffer this way. I find that horrible. Just lying there and blinking that to me is worst then death, it is a constent suffering if she is even capable of understanding that. We don't know is she really does mean anything by the blinking.
You see I had to let my mom go, been through this. I know what it is to look into the eyes of the person who loves you more then anyone on this earth and to know you will lose them. It was best for her. Her neck was broken, they feared her brain was damaged to the point where she would not reconize her children. I just could not do that to her. To be possibley paralazed and not know the people who loved you most, no I could not do that to the most wonderful person I ever knew. She is with God, whole, healthy and my angel now. I did what I thought was best for her. I knew she would not want to live like that. She told me so herself. As I have told my kids.
I was not trying to get around the issue, I was trying to explain it in a way that could make sense, but sometims that is just not possible. Different people, different choices all trying to do what they feel is best that is the bottom line.
And quite frankly name calling is serving what purpose, do you get some kind of joy calling me a selfish person? I have not called you any names. My opinion is different then yours, so what, I have not been mean to you, how about looking at yourself?
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks