So stressed - can't pay rent *Update* A Little Good News About Health Issues*

[pomtzu]

It would probably cost you more in the long run to move anyhow, Melissa, by the time you paid deposits, etc. Moving is expensive even if you don't move that far away. Besides, that's more stress that you just don't need.

Absolutely true!!!

And you're right Melissa - there's a lot that isn't fair.

I get p.o.'ed at these folks in the grocery store that pay with food stamps. Way too many of them are very well dressed and wearing nice jewelry (not the cheap stuff), and then they go out to the parking lot and load those groceries into a new or nearly new car. This is fair???

[Anikaca77]

Absolutely true!!!

And you're right Melissa - there's a lot that isn't fair.

I get p.o.'ed at these folks in the grocery store that pay with food stamps. Way too many of them are very well dressed and wearing nice jewelry (not the cheap stuff), and then they go out to the parking lot and load those groceries into a new or nearly new car. This is fair???

Yep I hear you. I know life isn't supposed to be fair but it's like I'm working 8-5 everyday Monday through Friday and I try to pay my bills on time and yet when I look for a little bit of help I make too much but yet what I have left isn't enough.

I'm going to pull my jeans tonight and list them on Craigslist and hope I can make some quick cash that way as I sorta forgot about paying for the gas in my car and getting around.

I'm going to look into a few other resources and see what happens but I haven't had any return calls from most of the churches I called and some replied back but said they didn't have funds.

I'll keep trying.
Melissa

[Logan]

Perhaps looking for a second job for a while would help you get ahead.

[Marigold2]

Wishing you the best of luck. I truly am sorry that you have found yourself on such tough times. I understand you are working but perhaps a second job even for a few hours a week would bring some extra cash in.
There are times in many people lives when we have to work two jobs until things change. My sister had to work for four years 7 days a week to support herself and her kids. She worked on one horse farm during the week and mucked out stalls on the weekend at another for extra money.
She used to be so tired she could hardly move, but as she liked to say she was thin and in shape. That is called looking on the bright side.
There were times when she was almost in tears from the hard work but she made it and raised her three kids without a man and now is in a better place. You will be as well. Don't give up, just put your head up, work hard and it will be ok, maybe not today or next week but you WILL get there. Again best of luck.

[Anikaca77]

I would look for another job but with my back issues I don't think I could stand that right now. My back hasn't been feeling very well lately, I'm guessing stress is just making the pain feel worse or something.

I go for my second injection tomorrow and I'm going to make some more phone calls to see if I can get us some more help so we are not too far behind next month. Hopefully something will work I'm just afraid they will say that we make too much but I'm going to try anyway and give it a shot.

I'm feeling so blue today and all I want to do is cry but that won't get me anywhere but I feel it would.

Yet to boot, I have to go get tested tomorrow to see if I have ADD/ADHD or if this is just PTSD or maybe it's just Adult Children of Alcoholics.

I've felt like I wanted to cry here all day but hopefully it will get better.

Talk with ya later,
Melissa

[pomtzu]

Melissa - a part time job isn't always the answer anyway, so maybe it's just as well that you can't do it. It's a quick temporary fix for the present, but hardly a long time cure, and you would find that out next year when you filed your taxes. My ex always insisted we needed the extra money (we didn't), and he always worked a part time job in addition to his full time one. And every year it screwed us up and we got much less back on Federal, and ended up paying State. Unless you can find a job that would pay you "under the table", then you could be in the same position you are now.

[carole]

Melissa i think you have enough on your plate right now, with your health issues and working full time, i hear what people are saying,and yes a second job would help get you through, but will your health survive it, try your best to get by as you are for now.
I imagine jobs are not that easy to come by right now anyhow, i really feel for you so much, i only wish i could help you, i have little means myself but i honestly would help if i could.
Just know we are here for you anytime, feel free to pm me, and cry if you need to, sometimes it is a great stress reliever if nothing else.
And honey if you are going through early menopause because of the medication i really empathise with you, it is no picnic,take care and giant HUGS.

[Cataholic]

Melissa - a part time job isn't always the answer anyway, so maybe it's just as well that you can't do it. It's a quick temporary fix for the present, but hardly a long time cure, and you would find that out next year when you filed your taxes. My ex always insisted we needed the extra money (we didn't), and he always worked a part time job in addition to his full time one. And every year it screwed us up and we got much less back on Federal, and ended up paying State. Unless you can find a job that would pay you "under the table", then you could be in the same position you are now.

For anyone reading this thread, and feeling the pinch in their own household (and, really, who isn't), please note that working a second job(or more hours at your first job) IS the only way to bring more money into your household.

Getting more or less money back from the government is not a 'working 2 jobs' problem, it is not taking enough (or too many) deductions on the form (W-4)you fill out. I have heard that it is recommended that for for your second job, you claim 0 exemptions/dependents so that the highest amount of tax is taken out. That will cover you at the end of the year, and you will still get a refund. (Getting a refund, or a large refund, is a whole 'nother financial discussion).

Melissa- I am not encouraging YOU to get a second job...just don't want anyone that reads this to think there isn't any benefit to getting a second job to help you get out from under.