So stressed - can't pay rent *Update* A Little Good News About Health Issues*

[DJFyrewolf36]

Prayers on the way...Ive been there!

[happylabs]

Prayers on the way...Ive been there!

Me too! When my ex left 8 years ago I wasn't sure how I was going to survive. I prayed a lot. You will make it through.

[carole]

I am extremely concerned for you both, it is so stressful when money are your worries, i wish i was able to help you, and would if it were possible, i can only say all fingers and paws crossed here for things to take a positive turn, i hope with all my heart that you will make it through now and in the future,I like the others here know you will, take care and know we are here for support any time.

[Husky_mom]

sorry to hear that..

do you mind if I ask for a paypal.. if you got one.. I´d like to pitch in a bit

[Freedom]

Food pantries, church, what about food stamps? (I think they renamed that program)

We also have 2 "food pantries" for pets which started up in the past year due to the economy, to help out. See if any of that is available.

[Anikaca77]

Hi Everyone-

First off I want to thank you all for being there for us and I have checked into churchs, I had one reply back but I'm waiting to hear from them now. I did check into some other services as well. My husband might be able to get some money through a separate work program, I'm not sure of any details just yet but he has a meeting on March 31st so we'll see what happens then.

I know some of you probably are thinking why don't we re-home some of our cats since we are in debt a bit with our vet, but we love our cats so much and they are part of us and we are caring for them. The only reason why we weren't able to pay off our vets last year was because my husband fell outside our apartment complex and ruptured the middle cord of his right plantar aponeurosis. This caused him to be off work for 2 months, he was willing to go back to work but where he works he is not allowed to have opened toed shoes and he had to wear a cam walker so he couldn’t return to work. He didn't have any vacation or medical time left due to his CVS stuff so my bonus that I got at the end of the year went for us and the cats to live and pay bills and rent of course.

I will look into the house cleaning stuff as well but with my back issues and I'm due for another injection this Friday. I did find some plus size jeans that I have that I hardly wore and there were a few new ones that I purchased but never wore and now they are too big for me which is great so I might try to sell them, I was going to give them to goodwill but they are in great condition so that would work out well.

I hope no one was thinking I was looking for you guys to give us money, I really just appreciate the support we are given in the way of prays. Right now is a tough time for everyone it seems and I just needed to vent and your prays have helped.

I just want to thank everyone again for the prays and support.

Melissa

[Cataholic]

I would go- today- to your landlord and explain your situation. Do NOT wait until your rent is late. Do not let them wonder what is going on. I represent landlords often...and keeping them in the loop is nearly always a way to keep things working out for both parties.

I would immediately disconnect all non-essential services. Cable, internet, phone (land line), newspapers, magizines, etc. I would reduce my car insurance to the state minimum. I would never, ever give up my pets.

I would look into any type of job right now...temporary, seasonal, etc., to bring in quick cash.

I would know in the back of my mind this is a VERY temporary situation, and pray for patience while it passes.

[Pinot's Mom]

I would go- today- to your landlord and explain your situation. Do NOT wait until your rent is late. Do not let them wonder what is going on. I represent landlords often...and keeping them in the loop is nearly always a way to keep things working out for both parties.

I would immediately disconnect all non-essential services. Cable, internet, phone (land line), newspapers, magizines, etc. I would reduce my car insurance to the state minimum. I would never, ever give up my pets.

I would look into any type of job right now...temporary, seasonal, etc., to bring in quick cash.

I would know in the back of my mind this is a VERY temporary situation, and pray for patience while it passes.

VERY sound advice!

"I hope no one was thinking I was looking for you guys to give us money, I really just appreciate the support we are given in the way of prays."

I know I can only speak for myself, but I think I can say with confidence that any help offered came from the heart and not due to you looking for money. We all care about each other and want to help in any way we can.

[Anikaca77]

I just got an anonymous tip from someone. They asked me not to reveal their name so I won't and I won't reveal the amount because I don't want to upset them either or anything but word's can't express my gratitude towards that individual.

Our landlord is very nice and will let us pay late the only thing is we ran into a jam last month (my car needed repair work) and didn't pay that rent till March 15th so I don't want to be late again if I can help it but she will allow us to pay rent late the only problem with doing that is that we will have other bills coming in on the 15th of April that we normally have and will need to pay. Right now though I don't think we will need to worry so much which is a huge relief.

We don't do magazines or anything that we don't need. I've tried to reduce my car payment but the company who I have my loan through they won't do that, (I had really bad credit so I had to go with a high interest on my car). I will look into the car insurance as well thank you for the other great tips! I will show this to my husband as well and see if he can think of anything we could disconnect for a temp. time that might help.

Don't worry I won't give up any of my pets either, I love them too much and we can afford them it's just we got ourselves in a pickle but our vet is very understanding and we were honest with them from the time my husband fell so they were aware and we are trying to do monthly payments so at least we are doing something for our bill.

Thanks again,
Melissa

[Lilith Cherry]

I really hope things will work out for you both... money troubles are so hard on everyone. You have all my sympathy and lots of loving thoughts and prayers, Melissa

[jennielynn1970]

I feel for you... I have been going through foreclosure with my house and it's a scary thing. It's not in foreclosure now, but that is due to me talking to my parents (finally), and them helping me out IMMENSELY (to the tune of almost $12,000.00). I don't know what I would have done without them. I also have health issues, and when I take a day off, it's also without pay. I know the whole FMLA routine, although this year at work, they wouldn't offer it to me as "intermittent", only if I took off the whole 2nd semester!! I can't imagine going 5months without any pay at all... so I just said fine, I'll do without the FMLA. I don't know if they can legally tell me to do without it, but it was either the full FMLA or none.

I'm glad you have some relief for now. Definitely look into the food banks, and also getting some financial aid if possible. You would almost certainly qualify for food stamps at this point (my ex's wife does, and she makes more than you put down). Try that, try getting some kind of assistance from the state. It all helps.

[moosmom]

Melissa,

Call your town hall and ask if there are any food pantries around at churches, etc. Explain your circumstances. That's what I did. I'm on a fixed income and there are times when I don't have food (my cats ALWAYS eat before me) so that's what I do. There are times when I live on pasta and butter, PB&J sandwiches, eggs. Sometimes they give you chicken legs or sausages. You'd be surprized the meals you can come up with.

Barder with your landlord. Again, explain the circumstances. If you've been a good tenant, there's no way they can't work with you.

This economy sucks. I'm really sorry you're going through this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Love & hugs,

Donna and fur crew

[Anikaca77]

Jenn-

I had no idea, I'm so sorry. I'm so glad your parent were there for you, my mom always tell's us that if we need anything just ask, but the sad reality is that yeah I'm sure she'd sell what she could to help out but she can't afford it.

I know she means well and I appreciate her thoughts but I know her times are tough too especially with just have surgery and going for PT once a week and that costs her $25 each time.

I don't know about the food stamps or not because I read into that before when my husband wasn't working and I found out that they based it off of our last year income which was more of course.

I know where my husband works, they can either approve the FMLA or decline it regardless if a Dr. filled it out or not which is usually the case.

It sucks that you can't get paid for those days because you have an illness it's not far.

Take care and I hope all goes well for you.
Melissa

I feel for you... I have been going through foreclosure with my house and it's a scary thing. It's not in foreclosure now, but that is due to me talking to my parents (finally), and them helping me out IMMENSELY (to the tune of almost $12,000.00). I don't know what I would have done without them. I also have health issues, and when I take a day off, it's also without pay. I know the whole FMLA routine, although this year at work, they wouldn't offer it to me as "intermittent", only if I took off the whole 2nd semester!! I can't imagine going 5months without any pay at all... so I just said fine, I'll do without the FMLA. I don't know if they can legally tell me to do without it, but it was either the full FMLA or none.

I'm glad you have some relief for now. Definitely look into the food banks, and also getting some financial aid if possible. You would almost certainly qualify for food stamps at this point (my ex's wife does, and she makes more than you put down). Try that, try getting some kind of assistance from the state. It all helps.

[Anikaca77]

Melissa,

Call your town hall and ask if there are any food pantries around at churches, etc. Explain your circumstances. That's what I did. I'm on a fixed income and there are times when I don't have food (my cats ALWAYS eat before me) so that's what I do. There are times when I live on pasta and butter, PB&J sandwiches, eggs. Sometimes they give you chicken legs or sausages. You'd be surprized the meals you can come up with.

Barder with your landlord. Again, explain the circumstances. If you've been a good tenant, there's no way they can't work with you.

This economy sucks. I'm really sorry you're going through this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Love & hugs,

Donna and fur crew

Thank you, I will check. We have food right now to last for a while so I'm not too worried about that, and like I said I had someone donate and with my husband looking out we maybe ok and get over this financial hump.

Thank you,
Melissa

[carole]

Oh Melissa i am so happy someone has been able to help you out, god bless that wonderful person, there truly are some generous,caring individuals out there who will give you the shirt off their back in times of need.

I continue to hope all will pick up soon and you will be back on your feet again in no time, I am so sorry you are having these difficulties and your husband's illness sounds awful ,poor guy, i really feel for him too.

I don't think anyone here on PT would expect you to part with your pets, i know i certainly would not, i would do without food myself to feed them, we all can only pray and hope for a positive outcome for you, take care and HUGS.