My poor Grandma :(

[Taz_Zoee]

I have no advice for you. I am sorry about your grandma.
I just wanted to say, your dad sounds like a wonderful person.

[Catty1]

Your poor Grandma...and she has NO idea what is happening to her!

I am NOT a fan of medicating a person to make them compliant...but I wonder if a mild tranny or something would make her less fearful and at least feel a bit calmer? To live so terrified is awful.

I am glad your Dad does get a bit of a break, and that coupon thing sounds like a great deal!

Prayers that things can be a bit calmer for your Grandma and your Dad.

And I agree - you ARE a WONDERFUL daughter!

[king2005]

Thanks guys
I do try to do the best I can

The scared thing doesn't happen too often right now. Since she sleeps all morning, that gives dad a lot of time to do things, so she has NO idea he's even been gone.

Now that she is getting worse, dad will adapt to her new needs, so she doesn't get scared. We most likely wont medicate her to make her a veggie, its just not who we are. If she reaches full blown dementia & gets scared all the time, then thats prob when dad would medicate her into a veggie, so she wont live in a never ending nightmare.

My great grandmother lived in a never ending nightmare & she got hurt so many times, nearly broke her leg, then her arm She would cry everyday & non of her bloody kids (her, nor her kids share our blood, she married my widowed grandfather's dad) would visit her, only my grandma would. I hated going there & I'm 100% guilty at avoiding her. I feel terrible, but I just couldn't handle her crying all the time & wanting to come home.. Thats all she wanted for 10+yrs.. was to come home.. it was horrible
I do love her, but I was soooo thankful when she passed away a few months ago, that poor women is not at rest. She was 98

I'm pro Assisted Suicide for cases like this. We can end our pets horrid suffering, but its ok to let our human loved ones to live in hell for 10yrs.. I don't understand how that is right, I just don't My grandma isn't close to that, shes very much alive & ok... but if she goes into full blown dementia & is scared all the time, I would wish the assisted suicide option was available. However if she wasn't scared & was in a happy dementia, then assisted suicide would not be an option. Just my opinion, I don't expect others to share it.

[Catty1]

OH, gosh, I didn't mean veggie at all! Just something to take the edge off for her.

{{{hugs}}}

[king2005]

OH, gosh, I didn't mean veggie at all! Just something to take the edge off for her.

{{{hugs}}}

Sorry I interpreted it wrong
So something that would make her more happy... like a prozac?

[Pawsitive Thinking]

It's heartbreaking for everyone concerned. The same happened to my grandad He had to be moved to a home for dementia patients for his own safety in the end. He died peacefully in his chair shortly after, having had "a really great day" according to the staff.

Sending you and your Dad lots of love and support

[wombat2u2004]

Sorry I interpreted it wrong
So something that would make her more happy... like a prozac?

Prozac is for depression, and besides, it has lots of side effects. A trip the doc might be a good idea. Maybe he can prescribe something to relax her a little more.

[Catty1]

Wom, Jesse said that her grandma totally freaks out at going to the doctor. But her dad and doc might be able to work something out.

Prozac and all its cousins take from 2 to 6 weeks to take effect.

I WAS thinking of a tranquilizer, but at a LOW DOSE (not veggie level )

Prayers continuing.

[Marigold2]

Please tell me she doesn't drive..........................

[caseysmom]

So sorry about your grandmother, my sympathies go out to you we went through the same thing with my father.

[king2005]

Please tell me she doesn't drive..........................

She took herself off the road in 2003. She felt she was too old to be driving, so she parked the car & never touched it again.

Also the fact that she wont leave the house kinda makes driving impossible...