Dementia is hard on everyone. I am sorry to read this update on your Grandma. My Dad also has a form of dementia, cerebrovascular dementia. There are over 30 types!

Here are a few suggestions:
- Dad needs to attend a caregiver support group; the help you get from other caregivers is priceless!anyone else to hep care for her should attend one as well.
- get the doctor to make the diagnosis, as many of the "benefits' kick in once you have that in hand.
- talk with the social worker at your local Alzheimer's Assn. chapter. They help with all forms of dementia, not just the Alzheimer's type.
- chat with the nurse at the local senior center, and the elder care specialist there as well.

One thing I can share with you (and everyone in any support group I've attended says this): with dementia, things suddenly happen fast, and you must know which resources are out there so you can develop a solution to whatever problem just cropped up. You can go along with no changes for weeks, months even and then suddenly 2 or 3 things change all at once. It is hard to cope with in a crisis, so knowing who to turn to is a HUGE asset. Then thins seem to hum along or weeks or months again; until the next upheaval. Just the way the disease is.