Always lying

[Karen]

Chronic lying can also be part of Borderline Personality Disorder, which I understand is treatable.

BPD is difficult to diagnose and very difficult to treat. Yes, it is treatable, but only with a strong commitment from both patient and doctor.

[wombat2u2004]

I think it is a mistake to say that someone with an inferior complex would be a liar such as this person,i would say that is an incorrect statement, i know someone who has an inferior complex and they are quite the opposite, hate attention of any kind,and certainly not liars.,infact i would say they are too honest for their own good if you know what i mean.

Thing is Carole, an inferior complex manifests in so many different ways.
People on one hand can be very withdrawn and shy and not mix socially with other people, because they realise that they can't perhaps hold a proper discussion with others. They feel as though they can fail in a discussion, whereas they may be intelligent enough to carry out a normal discussion, but their fears prevent them from doing that.

On the other hand, people who feel inferior may also try to take over the reigns in a discussion, to make themselves look good. They expand stories to get attention, they butt in to conversations, and also try to belittle the people they are talking to.
These are all pyschological defence mechanisms at work, making them feel superior, when in fact all they are trying to do is cover up and mask their feelings of inferiority.

Now, I have to go find my security blanket. Hee hee

[carole]

I stand corrected Wom, i never knew that,you learn something new everyday thanks for that.

[Vette]

Ive had a friends who lied all the time too,, though not to that extent but it may of very well gotten there eventually. i tried to talk to them to show that i wasnt believing it,, an they still kept at it. but ive learned that talking to them about it just doesnt work. it makes them more determined to convince you that theyre telling the truth. at least thats the experiences ive had.

it might best to say something to the husband an kids if you decide to say anything to anyone about it. if you tell her she may just open her drama spout even more an act all hurt an shit.

i feel bad for you an the husband an kids though. it is a very hurtful/sad/tiring an annoying situation to go through when people are like that.
best to luck to you an the family

[Marigold2]

Yes my concern is for the child, what kind of example she is showing her?
Mommy lies and even though she is a tiny thing now, as she grows older she will realize and have to suffer with this. It is very sad, I look at it now as an illness and I thank all of you for your advice and support.

[*LabLoverKEB*]

I know someone exactly like the person you have described.... I have no advice, but I can say that I know exactly how you feel. Because of the woman I know, she has many people (including myself) not want to be around her and listen to her constant lies/exaggerations.

[Vette]

Yes my concern is for the child, what kind of example she is showing her?
Mommy lies and even though she is a tiny thing now, as she grows older she will realize and have to suffer with this. It is very sad, I look at it now as an illness and I thank all of you for your advice and support.

Yeah i agree. its terrible example.

perhaps if you talk to the husband about it you two could later then come up with some plans of showing or explaining to the child that moms sick an that lying is bad. that it does no good for anyone including the one lying an to not follow her lead.


that is if it even goes down like that. who knows how the husband an child will react an such. so i know its definitely easier said then done. but whatever you decide to do,, if you go the the husband or to her about it,, at least you know you tried something.