Moral Dilemma

[carole]

I think we should give Pinots Mom more credit here and have faith in her, i am sure she will do her best to change their minds, you can only do so much, people have different ideas, some would consider our love and care towards our pets extreme and nutty even,unfortunately not everyone feels as we all do,and what Pinots mom expressed about their feelings is more common than not.

Let us just keep hoping she can change their minds, I know she will do her very best, good luck, as i am sure you are going to need it, and bless you for trying.

[aTailOf2Kitties]

why do I find fault with this thread? Because it's nobody's business. If Pinot's Mom knows these people, she needs to deal with them herself, not spread their business on an internet forum.

Puss is their cat, not ours. Obviously if they feel they cannot give him the care he really needs then it's up to them to find him a new home or humanely PTS.

Plenty of people out there have pets that are just that...pets. They're not family members, they're not children, they're animals. As long as they receive proper vet care and some sort of attention on a regular basis, I'm not gonna judge someone for not coddling their animals. Would you rather a dog be a backyard pet, or just die in a shelter. Should "barn cats" all be killed to save them from a life outdoors?

Puss has obviously been cared for to some extent or he wouldn't have lived to his advanced age. If this family feels that Puss isn't happy any more or requires more attention than they can give him, then let them find a new home or PTS rather than let him slowly decline.

Bottom line, I refuse to "throw somebody under the bus" just because they don't care for their animals as much as I do for mine. I sure as hell ain't gonna share their business with other people who don't know them just to make myself feel better for butting in.

I'm not gonna pass judgement until I hear Puss' owners give their side of the story. If I told someone I kicked a dog and they spread it all over the internet, then everyone here would be ready to firebomb my house. Never mind that I kicked that big dog to get him to let go of the little dog he was attacking. There are 2 sides to every story and in Puss' case we've only seen one. Do you know what I'm getting at?

[Pinot's Mom]

Yes, I do understand what you're saying, and your point of different treatment of pets is why I made the original post. I have a dilemma and wanted others opinions from a place where pets are first and foremost. These people mean a great deal to me and my husband, and this hurts me. I have not spread this all over the internet, I have not used their names, I have been doing what I can to try and save the life of a kitty who has done nothing wrong except to get older. I appreciate your input, aTailof2Kitties, it's another point of view.

Thank you carole, pomtzu, Indigo Bully, momto4 and others who have written positive support; it means a lot. I will keep doing my best.

[carole]

I am glad she came back and posted about her comment, because i have to say a lot of it does make sense and i cannot argue with most of it,neither do i want to.

In Pinots Mom's defence though i have to say as she stated she has not put this on here with any bad intentions, just as she said herself for advice, there is nothing wrong with that, and we do not know these people and their identity is safe,so no harm done there.

I just hope you can find a happy solution Pinots mom that will ease your mind,and still keep your friendship in tact, i understand where you are coming from and you do have a dilemma somewhat to deal with,again all the best of luck.,here is hoping for a positive outcome.

[pomtzu]

Well Maggie - you know that I back you. I'm hoping you can convince your friends to rethink this whole thing.

[Medusa]

Perhaps if you show your friends some of the replies on this thread, they might have a change of heart. If the old cat was sick the kind thing would be to have it PTS but it isn't; it's simply old and there's no good reason that I can think of to have an old cat PTS. My Pidgie was a testament to what a quality life an old cat can live w/hardly any extra care involved. She needed meds twice a day; big deal. I hope all my Fur Posse live as long.