Boo Bear and Coco Puff; update 1/2; a weird update; post #41

[Medusa]

I figured it out as I was lying in bed last night: Boo is mad at me for taking his Pidge away and not bringing her home. If you'll recall, when I took her over to him as we were leaving for Dr. Lee's so that he could say goodbye, he turned away and made a sound as if to say "Leave me alone!" He still loves me, as is evident by the fact that he comes to me for love and attention, but he wants it only when he comes to me now. If I try to show him affection at any other time, he becomes aggravated.

Yodie is mad at me, too. She's had that collar on for a month now and she's really depressed. I give her plenty of attention, too, but when I have to shove meds down her throat and squirt meds in her ear twice a day, she gets furious! She's had enough and she avoids me now. She won't sleep w/me either. And it's not going to get any better for a while b/c even if the incision stays closed today after the stitches are removed, she still has to wear the collar for a while b/c of her eye, poor girl.

Boy, do I feel like a villain!

[Anikaca77]

That's a very good point.

Time will heal hopefully.

My prays for you and Boo Bear and Coco Puff.

Melissa

[phesina]

Awwwwww, for you and your kitties. Not an easy time of it for any of you.

Lots of {{{{{HUGS}}}}} and ~~~~~PURRS~~~~~ to you all.

[catmandu]

I know that Joseph must miss John Hancock, they were such good friends and always sitting together.
And we all miss Moose the MagnfiCat who was such a Social Butterfly of a Cat and whose PURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRRRRRRR made everyone feel better!!

We are praying that Boo will realize that what happened was not your fault.
Maybe when Pidge visits , things will be cleared up.

[Medusa]

When I went to bed last night, Boo was asleep on the back of the sofa and I said 'goodnight' to him and he stayed there. Coco Puff went to bed w/me. A few minutes later, Boo started wailing so loudly that I ran downstairs thinking that something had happened to him. I turned on the light and there he was, sitting in the middle of the throw rug where he and Pidge used to sleep together, just wailing. He ran over to me, I picked him up and he wrapped his arms around my neck so tightly. I think this boy is afraid. I'm not sure of what but that's the impression I got. Maybe he's still worried that something bad happened to Pidge or maybe he's afraid for himself, I don't know. I've had several "talks" w/him explaining what happened to Pidgie, that she's safe and misses him, too, etc. I just don't know what else to do for my poor boy.

[Laura's Babies]

This is so heartbreaking and they do grieve like humans do. I have no advice to ideas on what you could do other than to pay far more attention to them than ever.

Just a thought here and maybe it is a way out thought.. You took Pidge out of the house and she never came back.. Could they be afraid you will take them away and never bring them back?

I would contact Nancy and see if there is anything you or she can do to help. We never had any idea how bad Mama's death traumatized Boo until she told me that. Pidge being taken out and never brought back has surely traumatized them. Maybe they need to know YOU miss her too and are grieving just as bad as they are. Nancy said Boo just wanted to be heard and have her feelings known so we would understand HER feelings and that made all the difference in the world for me and for Boo. I think Nancy could help! It is worth a shot if it could help them and YOU! Maybe Pidge might even come through and talk to them and let them see she is alright now. I would do it in a heartbeat.

[Catty1]

I know you have talked to Boo and Coco Puff - if you haven't, add that YOU wanted to bring her home too, and were as broken-hearted as they are that she didn't come back.

I don't know if Boo would "get" visiting her grave with you holding him.

Poor dear baby...hugs and loves to him. At least you are there for him to hug tightly when his poor heart hurts so bad.

Prayers for the kitty hearts to heal - and yours too!

[Medusa]

I've sat w/Boo on my lap and I've also held him and rocked him while standing. That's his favorite; he loves it when I throw him over my shoulder and he lets his legs hang down, secure knowing that I'm holding his little butt. I've told him that I cried, too, b/c I miss Pidgie so much, I've told him that she misses us as well but that she's happy now and not sick or old or in pain. I've told him that he doesn't need to be afraid, that I'll always take care of him, that I'll never leave him and that he will see Pidgie again one day. I've said it all, talking to him as I would a dear child. For a while I thought I had gotten through to him b/c he was acting closer to normal but last night was so sad. He actually trembled when I picked him up and held him close. Tonight, though, he wanted to go downstairs to sleep instead of going to bed w/me so I let him. I don't want to force him to do something he doesn't want to do even though I'll worry about him b/c I won't be able to reach out and pet him to reassure him. I sure hope his little broken heart mends soon b/c this is really breaking mine.