As much as you love your pup now. He's trying to control the situation. I totally agree with Carrie. I think it's time to start taking the 'Nothing in life is Free' approach. Make him work for everything he wants. Don't feed him until he sits... that kind of thing. And when your fiancee is petting the dog, and he howls at you, tell her to ignore him and put him on the floor. And vice versa for you also.