I just need to talk about this....

[Genny]

I'm really sorry about what happened. Maybe he will come around. Maybe he got scared since this is his first real relationship.

And you know, why didn't he tell me this stuff sooner...like on our first or second date? He waited too long...it's like he let me get to where I cared about him and then he decides to let me know he's not ready... It's sooooo complicated

[happylabs]

I don't claim to understand men and I am 49,was married for 17 years to the love of my life when he left me for an old college girlfriend.

I agree with the others comments. I would move on. I hate to say this but it sounds to me like he is interested in someone else or why would he feel awkward about talking to you or looking at you. He is feeling guilty about something. Also, I find it hard to believe at 18 that you were his first girlfriend ever.

At least you are young. I am old and trying to meet someone. It is a lot harder at my age.

Hang in there.

[Genny]

I don't claim to understand men and I am 49,was married for 17 years to the love of my life when he left me for an old college girlfriend.

I agree with the others comments. I would move on. I hate to say this but it sounds to me like he is interested in someone else or why would he feel awkward about talking to you or looking at you. He is feeling guilty about something. Also, I find it hard to believe at 18 that you were his first girlfriend ever.

At least you are young. I am old and trying to meet someone. It is a lot harder at my age.

Hang in there.

I don't know I really think I was his first gf, as weird as that may sound for me to say I believe him. He says he's only been friends w/ girls and from the way he was when ever we were together I think he was telling the truth about that. He never knew for anything for us to do. He always let me choose what we could do when we were out. I think it's cause he didn't really know cause he had never done stuff like that before.
You might be right about him liking someone else. I hope not even though I don't see us ever getting back together... but I just hope that's not why he ended our relationship. It doesn't seem like he had enough time to be with anybody else when we were dating cause we were always together unless one of us was working. We didn't get to stay out 'late' cause of my mom's strict rules but every night he was off we would go out and every day I was off we would go out then too. Who knows?? I wanna text him and talk to him...but I don't wanna sound needy and I'm kinda afraid since he seems to be avoiding me at work that he might ignore my texts and I really really don't want him to ignore me cause right now if I texted him and he didn't text me back it would hurt all over again...

[dukedogsmom]

Welcome to the wonderful world of relationships. Men are very strange creatures. He shouldn't have been saying he loved you. Those are some words you don't mess around with. I honestly don't know what was going through his mind. Just chalk it up as experience and move on. I hate to tell you this but there's more ahead. Just part of life. Be careful not to get too close too quickly. Maybe you spent too much time together?

[Genny]

I don't know if it was cause we spent too much time together, I don't think so really...my mom said she thinks it's cause I never told him that I loved him. I dunno about that either tho...I mean he did say it quite alot, but I don't think that's why...you know just cause I never said it...who knows??
But today at work is was weird being around him...he is so rude to me now...not rude really...just ignores me and acts like we're strangers...my friend and I were talkin and he comes in and tells her hi and doesn't say anything to me We haven't 'talked' since the night he texted me all that crap... You think he thinks that I'm mad at him? I'm hurt but not mad...I can get over it...I don't want to never talk to him again..I'd rather be friends than nothin at all, ya know? Should I say hi to him next time we see each other at work??

[kitten645]

Honey as they say, with friends like that, who needs enemies! You have friends. Good, decent, deserving friends that would never treat you like that. At best, his behaviour was disrespectful. At worse, downright cruel. Who needs THAT? I say ignore him and move on. Don't waste another breath or thought on him.
Claudia

[jennielynn1970]

Honey as they say, with friends like that, who needs enemies! You have friends. Good, decent, deserving friends that would never treat you like that. At best, his behaviour was disrespectful. At worse, downright cruel. Who needs THAT? I say ignore him and move on. Don't waste another breath or thought on him.
Claudia

Ditto. He's acting really immature. Saying hi to someone standing next to you and then ignoring you??? RUDE. Not worth your time, emotions or trouble. You are worth much more than what he can/would/should have given you.

[Genny]

Yea, I guess it was rude... You know what else he did that really pisses me off and hurts my feelings?? Twice while we were going out we ran into this guy that he graduated with at the Shell Station, and each time he talked to him about 15-20 min...and the guy always talked to me and stuff... Jordan told me to just ignore the guy that he liked me and that's why he kept talkin to me...anyways that only happened twice...
But a few nights ago I got a text that said 'is this genny' and I didn't know the number so I texted back askin who this was and he replied and said it was that guy you and Jordan saw at the Shell those times...and I was like how did you get my number and he said that he and Jordan ran into each other again and he told him about us breakin up and so the guy asks Jordan if he can have my number cause he thinks I'm cute and Jordan just gave it to him... It's like he thinks he can just go give it away to whomever...I don't even know this guy..and he keeps textin me..I think he wants to go out w/ me and I don't wanna go out w/ him...but it pissed me off that Jordan just gave him my number ...kinda like here it is... you can have it.. you know? And then it hurts my feelings cause it's like he doesn't even care if some other guy goes out w/ me..I dunno it's so hard to explain and so confusing.. Normally when you and a guy split up you don't see them much after..I see Jordan almost every day at work and it doesn't make things easy...