When Ralph and Spunky were alive, we had to put child-proof locks on our 'fridge and the freezer on top of it. After, they both were gone, I just could not bring myself to remove the locks. The freezer one fell off, and when we got a new ' fridge, no more locks....One the anniversary that the cat left for the Bridge, I put out a candle in the evening, and depending how windy, the candle may burn for over 24 hours. I also post on the site RainbowsBridge.com(I think). They have a Monday evening candlelighting ceremony every week. It really helps me to feel a little better about their passing....I miss all the Clan Cats that are waiting at the Bridge for that One Fine Day, as catmandu says.....