Hey--Question!! Confused here :(

[BitsyNaceyDog]

Why did he call me after 5 months and why didn't he call me before that, why did he wait so long?? I mean he really hurt me really bad by not calling me....

Call him. Ask him what his deal is. Ask him why he didn't call for 5 months. Tell him it hurt you. I'd also let him know that you don't want to be friend only when it's convenient for him.

By the way, it's good to see you posting again.

[Taz_Zoee]

I agree with what Kari said. If you guys were such good friends (and it sounds like you were) you should be able to talk to him about this.
I've had the same thing happen to me. I had a good friend and when he got into a relationship he would stop talking to me, usually because the girlfriend didn't want him talking to me. Jealous?? Anyway, he got married 5 years ago and I haven't heard from him since.
Try not to get hung up on him. He's obviously doing his own thing and you should too. If you two are meant to be together it will happen. Maybe further down the road when he matures a bit more.

And welcome back!!

[happylabs]

He was most likely completely wrapped up in his new girlfriend. He is very young and most likely does not have much experience in friendships/relationships.

You could call him and tell him that he hurt you and then move on. It will help you move on if you tell him how you feel/felt.

Good luck!

[Karen]

Definitely just talk to him!

[aTailOf2Kitties]

He's 18 and male. Who knows his reason for doing anything? Honestly sounds like he was putting you on a list of possibilities and then found someone more convenient at the moment. I'd move on, but then again I'm 36 now and have no more patience for immature mind games. Been there done that, LOL. Too many good men in this world to get worked up over just one.

[Genny]

Thanks ya'll for listening to me about my problems and trying to help me out. Alec still hasn't called me back since the last time I told ya'll about. But I feel like I need to know 'why' know what I'm sayin'? I just want to ask him why have you called me after nothing for 5 months! So most of you say I should talk to him--but I think what I'll do is text him tomorrow or something....something like this ~hey, just wondering what you have been up to. Well, I'll talk to you later~
Does that sond cool? Or should I send one a little funny like ~hey, what's up? I hope you don't plan on not calling me for another 5 months LOL~ so which sounds best? Or would you not send it at all? I just don't know...I hope I'm not boring ya'll
And here's one more thing I meant to mention earlier--when he asked me to go mud riding w/ him several days ago why did he ask me to go w/ him and his friends? I don't even know his friends--and he asked my brother to go w/ us too. I don't get that...if he wanted to go somewhere w/ me why couldn't he just ask me to a movie or somethin'?
Anyway thanks for listening to me ramble on and on about this.
I talked to a couple of friends about all this and they don't know Alec so all they tell me is forget him or ask him out, but I can't do either one. I don't know what to say....I talked to my mom about it and she told me that she use to love Alec he was so sweet and all this stuff, but since he didn't call for so long she told me she didn't know what his deal was--know what I mean? So anyway I got to go and I guess I'll talk to you guys after while!!

[aTailOf2Kitties]

perhaps he likes you as a friend but realizes you like him more than that, and he's trying hard not to send the wrong message? Go hang out with a group, but if you text and call and all that, you might make him a little edgy if he's trying to keep it "friendly" for now. Do you live close together?