Kids...can't live with 'em, can't beat 'em...

[Taz_Zoee]

Well lets put it this away Donna is That I Am So Glad That My Children Have Four Leggss..

I'm with ya on this one!!

But because it's the holidays, I would probably just forget about what she said and let her pay like she said she would. But definitely still have the talk with her after the holidays.
Now, I don't know your situation entirely, so this is just my opinion.

[moosmom]

lvpets2002,

No explanation necessary.

Taz Zoe,

Oh believe me, I PLAN on having the talk with her. But not now. And no, I don't want her to pay. I still plan on bringing my lil doggie bag to my friend's house followed by a little humble pie later, perhaps???

[pomtzu]

I'd definitely have a talk with her - after Christmas.
It sounds like she needs to get her priorities in the correct order. You're not going to be around forever - or hasn't she thought about that? Then what??? Maybe she should read some of the PT posts on here lately, by people who have lost their mothers!!!! And she definitely has a lot of growing up to do!

[king2005]

I would bring the dinner, but not make her explain why you brought your own dinner. She'll know, but no one else needs to know she was being a scroge.

Becuase in the end she did say she would pay your way & you did refuse, so that'll make you look spiteful.. which isn't good either.

So just bring your own dinner, refuse her money politely (say you don't want to be a mooch), & enjoy your dinner with some pie


That'll get your point across to her, and you wont look spiteful

[Twisterdog]

But because it's the holidays, I would probably just forget about what she said and let her pay like she said she would. But definitely still have the talk with her after the holidays.
Now, I don't know your situation entirely, so this is just my opinion.

I agree. I'd let it go for the time being, especially at your friends house for Christmas.

But the next time she wants you to do something for her, I'd remind her ... and refuse.

I fully feel your pain. If I would have known then what I know now ... I'd have probably just had my tubes tied and gotten another puppy. And I know for a fact I would NOT have married a man with three kids. My son can be a handful, and has caused me many heartaches ... but my husband's three kids, honestly, are the spawn of Satan.

[shepgirl]

I think I would overlook it and let her pay as she offered to do. Have a pleasant Christmas without resentment on either side. BUT...I would definitely have that talk with her after the holidays. Maybe you could appeal to her "loving" side and not make it like a "duty"?
I don't know your daughter but when I read your post I did find it rather unbelievable.
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones, my daughter and sons bend over backwards for us....if ever my daughter pulled something like this I would be terribly hurt and would let her know how it affected me.
Maybe it was a spur of the moment reaction on her part, kids can say or do thiongs without thinking sometimes.

[Medusa]

Maybe she's feeling the pinch herself and you caught her off guard. It doesn't excuse rudeness if she was rude to you but it may explain why she didn't agree to pay for your dinner when you asked. Forgive her. Have a wonderful, peaceful Christmas. After the holidays, lovingly tell her how you felt about the situation. Don't accuse, just tell her that you were hurt and then ask why she responded the way she did. It'll all work out, Donna. Merry Christmas.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I think it depends on what you want from the situation.

Every action gets a reaction. What reaction are you looking to get?