a question re engagements....

[pomtzu]

It's pretty much "anything goes" anymore. The old fashioned way was for the guy to pick it out and surprise her, but even as OLD as I am, I picked mine out way back when. When my son was getting one for his now wife, he had me go along and pick it out because I knew what she liked.

[RICHARD]

The 'new' rules of picking out an engagement ring are as follows.

These are the rules set aside by the diamond sellers.

1. The ring should cost the man three months of his yearly salary.

2. See rule number one.


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The way I wanted to propose was the way my dad did it.

Find a gal, ask her first, then go to the parents, ask for her hand, then get a ring. THere is way too much emphasis put on the size, cost and material of the rings.

I worked with women for long time and there was nothing more entertaining, and telling, when a gal shows off a ring to her co-workers.

[Barbara]

Here "engagement" as a celebration is something you had in the 50s or 60s. After that you did not get engaged -you just married. Both people picked up their rings together and they were simple bands in yellow gold. Very avantgarde people (like me when I married first time in 1975) wore no rings at all.
As times passed the wedding bands became more eleborate. And within the last ten years the US fashion has taken over, fuelled by TV shows I suppose. Now women - especially of the more wealthy classes- get that 3-salaries-diamond for engagement and wear it with the wedding band later.
Very old-fashioned people (like me when I married the second time ) don't wear any wedding ring.

[RICHARD]

As times passed the wedding bands became more eleborate. And within the last ten years the US fashion has taken over, fuelled by TV shows I suppose. Now women - especially of the more wealthy classes- get that 3-salaries-diamond for engagement and wear it with the wedding band later.

Here they have very strong marketing campaigns that is led by Zales, Kaye and another diamond company-

One commercial is about women who get a text message from another woman-The woman texts the message that the man took her to a very classy restaurant-the next text says something about the jewelry store he went to-apparently to purchase the engagement ring.

Now they have rings that are graded by color-some rings are laser engraved with their 'purity' and grade. There is also supposed to be certificates stating that the diamonds did not originate in countries known for their black market mining operations.

One story that really made me wonder about the worth of a diamond was from a talk show host that made a statement about the price and availability of diamonds across the world.

He made he assertion that the diamond cartels own warehouses of diamonds and if all the stones were put into circulation the net worth would plunge dramatically.

I can see where the purity and color of stones can affect the price but aren't they all just old carbon?

[jennielynn1970]

I've seen people pick them out together, or the guy surprises the girl. I think it goes either way these days. I'd be not too happy with a yellow gold band, so hopefully the guy would know enough to ask me or to let me help him pick it out. I'd love something from an estate sale. I love old jewelry.


My first, and only, engagement ring was given to me when I was 16. I was dating Chris for about 2 years at that point, and we would break up and get back together. He decided he wanted me to not break up again, so he asked me to marry him.

Ok.. ask a commitment shy girl to marry you, out of the blue, and give her a ring???? Can you just see me running the other way faster than you can blink?!

I felt bad, but geez...

[caseysmom]

Twenty eight years ago my husband asked me and we went and picked our rings together. His actually was more money than mine... I have since upgraded a couple of times but I still have the original and it has sentimental value, we were starving students and its what we could afford.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

My husband informally asked me to marry him, then we picked out the ring together. Once he had the ring he formally asked me. I'm a very simple girl and I picked a very petite and simple ring. I wear my wedding band all the time, but I only wear my engagement ring for special occasions.

[Moesha]

My brother picked out my sister in law's ring and surprised her with it. My brother in law picked out my sister's ring and surprised her with it. I have another friend that was married in May that had the same thing. Another friend was asked by her boyfriend. She accepted and told him to go pick out a ring and don't spend more than $100 on it! LOL She only wore that until the wedding and just wears a plain gold band now.