Mary part of loving her is knowing when to let her go in peace and you will know, you really will,i realize how heartbreaking this is for you and i feel your pain, it is around the corner for me too, take comfort in knowing what a wonderful meowmie you have been to puddy and you know you are amongst friends who care for you and understand 100 per cent, giant gentle hugs to you both, and hang in there Puddy girl,if you can.

Mary i just wanted to add something, what helps me with my Ash is knowing that he has had a really good life, i know i have given him the best care, love i possibly can, it does not make it any easier, and when his time comes i will be heartbroken as you are,but it helps me deal with it, i know i am not there yet, but i am preparing myself for the inevitable, don't be so hard on yourself and remember just what a great kitty mum you have been to her and what a great life she has had, that is all any kitty can ever ask for, again i am thinking of you, and sending you hugs and love.,and i hope this can bring you some comfort at a time that is unbearable for you.

Mary it was my mother who made me think this way, sometimes i would discuss with her how i cannot bear the thought of either my mum or dad leaving me on earth, and she would always say to me, remember we are elderly and we have had a good life, keep that thought in your mind when the time comes, so i have adapted that way of thinking with my Ash, i hope you can with Puddy.