When family attacks/elder care and sibs rant.

[Catsnclay]

Glad you had that talk with the social worker...good first step!

it is really good to let them know EVERYTHING!! You may feel like you are droning on & on, but they do need to hear everything, and trust me they already know who are the 'good' guys Vs the bad ones.

Um......you DON'T have to answer to ANY one, nor 'baby' them - they are the ones that need to get out of the denial stage, not you.


BTW Richard, if you really want the full blown, play by play of my life, and trust me - you really don't want to hear it! - just let me know and i will give you a call......do you have all weekend to talk?!!

Hang tough, keep in touch - it will be the only way to stay sane, and no it's not to late for you!!!!!

The only 2 people you have worry about right now is you & your mother.

And in that order!! Your mother will not get any help if you are down!!! Stay tough and the answer to everything is - (now repeat after me.....).... NO!

[RICHARD]

Whew...Here we go, Again.

Where do I start?

My dear old sis came back from her second vacation. The hurricane cut it short. LOL, she deserved it.

I have to ask this.....Am I wrong for despising her?

I found out that the last time I spoke to her on the phone about her giving the financial details to my brother - She hung up on me because I called her a curse word! Actually her fragile paranoid ego THINKS I called her a curse word. I told her she was effing stupid. When she called she put me on a speaker phone, I asked her to take me OFF OF IT because I hate them and what I had to say to her was between us, I found out later that her husband, listening in on a speaker phone said that he didn't want that "SOB TO CALL HERE AGAIN.' MY sis told my brother that so I don't know how true the story is!

I really don't care. I'd rather be an SOB that some emotionally handicapped shell.

One of the reasons that I hold them in such low regard is from what I have seen and what I have heard about them. BIL was an LAPD cop (How? lol, I dun know!) and he would tell my mom and dad some of his war stories. He once told my dad, who was born in Mexico, this story.I wasn't there but I heard it from my mom and really do not doubt it happened because I heard other stories tinged the same way.

The LAPD has what's called a Special Order 40, which doesn't allow a PO to ask anyone what their resident status is.

So, when they pulled over people who didn't have a license or I.D. they were told to go to city hall and get one.

My dad did have a green card and later made citizen-he did tell me that he
that there were times that he felt uncomfortable around him, especially when he would tell about the stupid cruel things the po-po would do to citizens.

Anyway, she came back from vistiing my mom.

MY brother had arranged for a lawyer to come see her and sign a will and power of attorney. The woman drove a ways to get to my mom's bedside my mom backed down after agreeing to sign papers.

Sis, I should just call her Witch to cut thru the chase pulls up to the gate with my bro. She gets out of the car and says, "I have to talk to you!"

Typical effing drama queen fashion.......She'll never apologize to anyone (me) for being an effing liar and a stupid inconsiderate biatch. I was trimming some plants in the front yard so I stood up and said, "what do you want?"

"It's about mom she's distraught and she wants to talk to you." I have not gone to see my mom for a week. I am ticked off at her for another reason besides the latest 'lawyer incident'. When we asked her to meet with the first lawyer she did a few things that really hurt me, in front of him. He didn't realize it was happening so I didn't feel bad about that, but she was being rather uncooperative.

She won't work with us and is holding all the bad blood from the other kids against my bro, SIL and me. So, as long as she's doing failry well, I don't want to deal with her. SHe blames me for keeping her there, is mad about my nephew crying to her and about my little sister and brother because those F-wads keep showing up and asking her to sign papers.

What can I do? Nothing.

Going back to the Evil Biatch, THERE I CALLED HER A NAME!, She said that mom wanted to talk to me about some bills and stuff. Well, She says one thing, does another and blames me for crap I didn't, don't want and will never do.

I told the EW that I'd talk to mom tomorrow and I told her is that what you wanted?

She starts on her trip, "WELL, YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HER! She's crying and she is upset!" I laughed and told her that she had talked to her and I would let her know what I'd find out. I had to laugh because she walked into the yard-which she hadn't done for some years to confront me about this latest problem-And I told her that I wasn't going to call her house. I wanted to say that she was a liar and I didn't want Cro Magnon man to listen in on the conversations. I told her that I didn't appreciate her hanging up on me.

LOLOLOL, So here's the rub. My sister is a coward. Plain and simple. When confronted with the truth, she huffs and puffs and walks away-feigning hurt and using the tongue lashing with the truth as a reason for walking away and not confronting the issue!

She turned to me and said, "You cursed at me and even my husband doesn't do that!" I laughed and said that maybe that was what she needed, I also chased her with the line, "Walk away, D, you are a bigger woman than I'll ever be!"

Do I care? NOT really. She's always been a drama queen. She always has used someone telling the truth to get indignant and be offended.

She obviously can't handle the fact that mom is sick, she is a FA daughter and I have a handle on things. I know she wants to see me crash and burn and that ain't gonna happen.

TIme to take a break.

[Cinder & Smoke]

I have not gone to see my mom for a week.
I am ticked off at her for another reason besides the latest 'lawyer incident'.

She won't work with us and is holding all the bad blood from the other kids
against my bro, SIL and me.
So, as long as she's doing failry well, I don't want to deal with her.
She blames me for keeping her there ...

What can I do?

Time to take a break.

RICHARD ~

Please don't ignore your Mom.
She's elderly, and her mind doesn't always function clearly ...
When she's confused, the words don't come out right ...
Don't hold that against her ...

Give her a *Kiss* and a {{{Hug}}} while you remember the GOOD Times.

[RICHARD]

RICHARD ~

Please don't ignore your Mom.
She's elderly, and her mind doesn't always function clearly ...
When she's confused, the words don't come out right ...
Don't hold that against her ...

Give her a *Kiss* and a {{{Hug}}} while you remember the GOOD Times.

Thanks, it just kills me, but I have to take a break- I don't need anymore drama and getting my hopes up for a hand when all I get is a finger.

Talked to the doc today and got some good news so it's not all bad.

Thanks to you all again!

[Cinder & Smoke]

I have to take a break ...

Talked to the doc today and got some good news so it's not all bad.

Good News is GOOD!

OK, break's over ...

Let's go deliver a few Big {{{Mom'sHugs}}}!

[Medusa]

Good News is GOOD!

OK, break's over ...

Let's go deliver a few Big {{{Mom'sHugs}}}!

I second that emotion.

[RICHARD]

I second that emotion.

DONE!

Had a nice time, watched her eat lunch and made a date for MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL!

Her broncos are playing my raid-duhs on the opener, Dinner is on me and I can't wait!

[Medusa]

DONE!

Had a nice time, watched her eat lunch and made a date for MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL!

Her broncos are playing my raid-duhs on the opener, Dinner is on me and I can't wait!

Atta boy!

[Cinder & Smoke]

Let's go deliver a few Big {{{Mom'sHugs}}}!

DONE!

Had a nice time, made a date for MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL!

Dinner is on me and I can't wait!

Now, don'cha feel a LOT Better?

I'l bet MOM feels better.

Good on'ya, RICHARD!!

[Catty1]

COOL! WAY TO GO!

And the wittle envelope heading your way has 'sharing' stuff too. Hopefully by end of next week, beginning of next.

[jennielynn1970]

Awe... see, that's good that you did that. I'm glad that things are better with you and your mom.

Hope she keeps feeling better!!

[RICHARD]

Update?

I have found out that most of my worries are promoted by the people who I trust in and the people who are distant are the ones I can count on.

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My older sister, ever the drama queen, reported that a worker at the home had 'dumped ice water' on my mom one night. She called my other brother to say that the owners of the rehab center were investigating.

"Mom was crying all day and is really distraught."

Distraught-that is the key word in the witch's vocabulary. When my brother told me this I hadn't heard anything about it. I told him that it probably was an accident and not to worry. My mother always 'cries' after my sister talks to her. I found out later that this was the story, it was all an accident and nothing more came of it.

I also have a little problem with my SIL. She has let me down, big time and isn't woman enough to admit that she's not playing on 'the team'.

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I had a nice long talk with my little brother yesterday and that is where I found some support and more than enough common sense.

[jazzcat]

Ah yes, the family drama! I know how you feel Richard. My SIL is... well I can't say on this family forum but anyway she causes me the most grief. I recently found out from my Dad's neighbor that SIL called her (the neighbor is a florist and SIL was ordering flowers for a funeral) and she told the neighbor that they (brother and SIL) pay me to care for my Dad and that I don't take good care of him so she is going to move him to where they live and put him in a nursing home since I just cash in while he suffers. The neighbor luckily knows SIL is a nut but she still called me to ask me to never lever SIL get her hands on Dad.

BTW, no one pays me to care for my Dad. I get no money for it and in fact it costs me money in gas and in time because I can't work because I never know when Dad will need me. Burns me up to think she has told people who know me that she pays me to do it!

She lies about everything. Did I tell the one where she told people where her daughter attended school that she and my brother bought the Giant Pandas at the National Zoo in D.C. from China and donated them to the zoo? Or that she was Miss TN years ago? Those are just a few of the millions of lies she tells. Nut job I tell you!!!! Hehe, hubby wanted to get her a stuffed panda with a Miss Tennessee banner across it for Christmas that year.

[RICHARD]

BTW, no one pays me to care for my Dad. I get no money for it and in fact it costs me money in gas and in time because I can't work because I never know when Dad will need me. Burns me up to think she has told people who know me that she pays me to do it!

She lies about everything.

Nice to know that evil doesn't just hang out in one spot.

Ugh. I have to laugh.

I am not going to go into details. but it really sucks when it comes to money.

You can tell the level of a-holery goes up when dead presidents come into the picture.

People use money to try and control the situation. When all is said and done you will sleep the sleep of the innocent.

I has a convo with my other brother and he told me that he sleeps with no problems and often dreams of my dad.

My dad is there to remind him to keep going.

We laughed because he said that he had no problems with that.

After, he asked me if I was relaxed.

YEP,
We have to be. When the poop happens we have to be the foundation for whatever happens. Otherwise our incompetent, lazy, fabricating, lost relatives won't have anyone to tell them where to meet or what to do.

I have to laugh.

[jazzcat]

I has a convo with my other brother and he told me that he sleeps with no problems and often dreams of my dad.

My dad is there to remind him to keep going.

I have a dream about my Mom every single morning right before I wake up. The dream is always different but she's there and sometimes I acknowledge that she's been gone for four years and sometimes it's like she's never been gone. This has been happening for the past few weeks. Maybe she's reminding me to keep going. I hadn't thought of it like that. Thanks.