shepgirl, I didn't think for a moment you were trying to defend this guy at all...nobody does. But I gotta wonder - there are kids who go through divorces and having step-family and turn out FINE.

I am just postulating that sometimes people are born with a piece missing - like an arm, or part of a brain chemical or something - and nothing nohow seems to be able to change that. Good parenting may put off the inevitable - bad parenting might accelerate it.

Sometimes nothing external seems to help.