My grandmother is going to pass :(

[Ginger's Mom]

I am very sorry that your grandmother is so ill. But it sounds like this illness has given you a new determination to reconnect with your family. Plan a nice vacation to see the family members you haven't seen in a while. No sense in worrying about who made the last contact or traveled to see whom, just make your own plans to take your children to see their family. It is what you want, and it is what you want for your children. {{{Hugs}}}

[cyber-sibes]

Sorry to hear about your grandmother, I hope her passing is peaceful.

I Plan a nice vacation to see the family members you haven't seen in a while. No sense in worrying about who made the last contact or traveled to see whom, just make your own plans to take your children to see their family. It is what you want, and it is what you want for your children. {{{Hugs}}}

Good advice!

[luckies4me]

Thanks. It is just hard with everyone being so far away, and I don't even have numbers to any of my relatives. I keep asking my mother, but either she doesn't remember, or just doesn't want to give me the info. I plan on visiting my father this summer hopefully, and then I can also see my brother as well, as they both live in California.

[Freedom]

It is just hard with everyone being so far away

I am sorry to hear about your grandmother.

Sometimes, circumstance make it difficult to connect up with family. Set a good example for your children by teaching them and showing them how important relationships are, and making friends. Friends are local and easier to connect with. No, it is not the same; but relationships ARE key.

My Dad's family is Italian and was local when I was a child growing up so we saw them ALL the time. We spent holidays with them and 'just any ole days,' as well. Being Italian, they are all touchy feelly, kissing and hugging at the drop of a hat. So I grew up with that, considered that normal.

My mum was born and raised in London, England; came here after WWII, met my Dad, and married him. I barely know her side of the family. When I was 16, mum took my brother (then 8) and I to London for a 3 week visit. She had not seen the family there in 22 years. Keep in mind, everyone wrote regularly, and phoned a few times per year. Can you imagine my shock when my uncle (mum's kid brother, the one she was closest to) pulled up to meet us at the bus stop and all he said was, "are these all your bags?" No hugs, kisses, nothing. It's a cultural thing as much as anything. Also, my mum was about 6 when WWII started, 17 when it ended, she grew up with bombings all around her. It shaped the whole generation, not just her family.

You may find some insights if you think about the backgrounds of the people involved, their relationships to their family members, etc. At least that will help you understand, even if you don't agree with it.

[luckies4me]

One thing that makes it difficult for me, is that my children's fathers have all their family here. My sons know all of their family, but none of mind. Hopefully the offer made on my mothers house will work for them, and if they sell their house she plans to come and visit. I have been waiting forever to see them, and I really want them to see Kai. So I am keeping my fingers crossed that the sell goes though and they make a trip up here.

I've actually been thinking of trying to get a family reunion together, but I'm not entirely sure anyone would make it.