Lisa, I know just what you mean about the sociable young males deciding to "act out". Is it happening in his second year as it is for Cattulus? Fortunately, very fortunately my Cattulus isn't spraying at this time and I sincerely hope that luck lasts. He is going after a few of the quieter adult cats so they don't feel safe anywhere. He doesn't hurt them, and doesn't intend to harm, but he does harass them. Maeve copes with it fairly well, small as she is, but Diego has taken to hiding under a chair hoping that I will bring him food. I even had to put litter boxes under the big table in the living room, something I thought I'd never do, because he wouldn't even walk down the hall to the bathroom or litter room, he was pooping on the sofa and peeing in the hall! I don't know why Cattulus decides to pick on certain cats and ignores others, though glad he doesn't pick on them all. Diego is my biggest FIV+ boy, bigger than Cattulus and only about 6 years old, and he's an ex-street stray that bears permanent scars from a witnessed fight with a racoon. That cat is no wimp but he's allowing Cattulus to hound him. I really wish he'd turn around and smack him one.

I don't know what we can do in these circumstances where we have quite a houseful and a big mix of ages. I guess I'm hoping the few adjustments I've made and time will help us all cope. Cattulus is also a super sociable cat and there is no way I can isolate him without having a shredded door and burst eardrums (mine).

I'm sorry, I hope you can figure something out.