*hugs* Kim. You've been given some good advice.

There is no violence in my situation, however it is a situation I can't control which causes me to have nervous breakdowns.

My therapist recommended Co-Dependents Anonymous. http://www.coda.org/

I'm pretty much at the point where I have to make a choice too. Leave or stick with it.

Good luck hon. I hope it all works out for you. *hugs*