You all make a lot of sense, and i know i need to choose my battles, and there will be much harder ones ahead, i fully understand this, i guess i am as stubborn as she is when it comes to her well being, it just eats away at me thinking that she is putting herself at risk like this.

Yes my friends have said just let it go too, so i just wanted to come here and get a variety of points of views, and see what the outcome was, i do appreciate everyone's honesty and opinions,i can remember only a few years ago she saw a programme on skin cancer and was horrified and she was so diligent then after watching it, but she was only about 11 then, i have told her if she got it she could be disfigured by it,but she just say's i'm not vain , i don't care.

Ok well i am going to just try my darn hardest to forget about it,as i certainly am not going to get anywhere with her anyhow,it will be hard to do,but i am not doing myself any favours worrying all the time,thanks for all your advice.

I have already raised a son , who will be 26 this year, and we had our battles too, but i have to say i am proud of how he has turned out, i can only hope my girl turns out as well adjusted as he is now.,but oh how stubborn she is lol.