Quote Originally Posted by Marigold2
Sorry but I totally disagree with you. How long have you been a mom? Two years, maybe three. I have been a mom for 29 years, I have three kids. I was also a single mom for a while. Unless you are making $40.000 a year or more life is very difficult. It's nice if you can afford diapers, and braces, shoes, car insurance, electric, water, rent, car repairs and a million other things. But what if you can't? Does this young girl have a college education, does she make $40.000 a year, have a safe car, a nice place to live, a good job, health benefits, money saved in the bank? If you don't you will find yourself broke and very sorry in several years. When they turn off your water and the kid has a cold but you can't get to the store because your car is broke and you simply can't take another day of work or be fired. That's life. Not some cozy pink fairy tale. Giving the baby up for adoption to a loving family who is able to afford to give this child a safe car to ride in, good medical coverage, a warm safe home and a mom that can stay home is so unselfish and brave. That is a loving deed, keeping a child because it's "my baby my baby my baby is acting like a two year old who doesn't want to share her Barbie.
Surely, you weren't referring to ME as someone acting like a two year old, not wanting to share her barbie, were you?

You sound angry, resentful, and bitter. Maybe you are, maybe you are not. I dunno. But, I do believe having those traits could make ANY money one has meaningless. It can't be about money.

I make a modest income, have health benefits, two weeks paid holiday, and live in my own home (well, the bank and I...). I am, like many people, subject to homelessness, loss of benefits, and the like, with not much more than the loss of my job. Married, a hundred years old, or single, not much changes the fact that most of us, if we lose our jobs, would be in a dire situation. It can't be about money.

Probably, it is this particular comment of yours that gets under my skin:
Quote Originally Posted by Marigold2
Giving the baby up for adoption to a loving family who is able to afford to give this child a safe car to ride in, good medical coverage, a warm safe home and a mom that can stay home is so unselfish and brave.
I guess this means that 1) if you do not stay home with your child you cannot be a good mother; 2) if you do not have a car, you cannot be a good mother; 3) if you do not have good medical coverage, you cannot be a good mother; 4) if you are not part of a 'loving family', by which I read into- married, you cannot be a good mother.

Stunning, insulting, outdated, and generally, hurtful.