Sorry but I totally disagree with you. How long have you been a mom? Two years, maybe three. I have been a mom for 29 years, I have three kids. I was also a single mom for a while. Unless you are making $40.000 a year or more life is very difficult. It's nice if you can afford diapers, and braces, shoes, car insurance, electric, water, rent, car repairs and a million other things. But what if you can't? Does this young girl have a college education, does she make $40.000 a year, have a safe car, a nice place to live, a good job, health benefits, money saved in the bank? If you don't you will find yourself broke and very sorry in several years. When they turn off your water and the kid has a cold but you can't get to the store because your car is broke and you simply can't take another day of work or be fired. That's life. Not some cozy pink fairy tale. Giving the baby up for adoption to a loving family who is able to afford to give this child a safe car to ride in, good medical coverage, a warm safe home and a mom that can stay home is so unselfish and brave. That is a loving deed, keeping a child because it's "my baby my baby my baby is acting like a two year old who doesn't want to share her Barbie.
Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic
What? Give a baby up so that the woman doesn't have to deal with the man again, and start a new life?

It is hard? So, give the baby up? Being a single mom is not the hardest thing to do. In fact, I am surprised at how easy and uncomplicated my life is. Raising Jonah is probably the greatest thing I have ever had the pleasure of doing, and I get to do it full-time, all 'alone', and totally without regret.

Maybe that is because I am focused on my one and only priority- raising my son. My wants/needs/desires(LOL on that one, he he he...I mean it in the most innocent of terms) all take a second chair, gladly. I don't want/need/care for having another adult in my life.

Racinggrl- I don't think I would begin to get involved with anyone at this point. Your life, as you knew it, is going to be flopped upside down. Frankly, I can't imagine you having the time/energy to devote to a new relationship, other than the baby. I would prolly stop focusing on what life is going to be like in 6 months, and who, besides your baby, will be in it. Please don't p*** away your pregnancy and first few months with a newborn on some new "love". It is time you will never get back, and chances are good, sadly, that your new "love" won't be there in another 6 months.