Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic
I think what Columbine is emphasizing is the 'control' factor. You cannot control what another does to you. BUT, it gives you some feeling of control by acting like you can- by holding on, by not letting go, by berating yourself for someone else's actions, even by harboring the pain.

I am not suggesting any of this is really intentional, but, a script running subconsiously through your mind.
Yes, that's exactly what I meant! It's just an inherently human thing, I think. We've got these huge brains, and we're used to being able to use them to PLAN AHEAD. But sometimes you just can't, and beating yourself up over other people's nastiness is counterproductive.

Love, Columbine