Quote Originally Posted by dukedogsmom
I've read this several times and am trying to understand what you mean. From your last sentence, does it mean that no matter how hard we try, it's still going to happen?
Well, you can keep the same person from doing it again, but since it didn't happen because of you, but because of the other person, you can't change the way you do things so as to keep anybody else from backstabbing you. You can't live your life in any particular way that will keep people from being rotten to you, but you can X the one who already did it out of your life and just say, the past is the past, I'm going to go on.

There's no such thing as safety from meanness, though people try all kinds of things to attain it, from living like martyrs to turning mean themselves to just refusing to deal with anybody else at all unless they absolutely have to. But since it comes from outside, and you never did anything to bring it on yourself, if somebody's going to be mean to you, they're going to be mean no matter what you do. All you can do is stay away from the ones who've already done it.

Is that any clearer?

Love, Columbine