How Do You Handle This?

[dukedogsmom]

You could do what they do in New Zealand.
Cover yourself in tattoos, stick your tongue out at them, and then hit them over the head with a club.
That works sometimes. Carole will back me up on that one.
Wombat

Ha ha! Well, I do have a few tattoos......

[CathyBogart]

I hold grudges...and I can tell you, that is not the way to go.

[caseysmom]

I hold grudges...and I can tell you, that is not the way to go.

Me too...thats why the advice I gave was to forgive, its easiers said than done though.

[dukedogsmom]

Me too...thats why the advice I gave was to forgive, its easiers said than done though.

You got that right! I tend to hold grudges, too. But, for my own good, will try to find a happy medium.

[caseysmom]

You got that right! I tend to hold grudges, too. But, for my own good, will try to find a happy medium.

Don't you feel your whole being getting the life sucked out of you when you feel like that though? I just hate that feeling.

[columbine]

Forgiving isn't making excuses for the person who hurt you or setting yourself up to let them hurt you again. It's just closing the book. The trickiest part is forgiving YOURSELF for having gotten into that situation in the first place - learning how to stop wondering how you "brought it on yourself" or could have "saved" them if you'd tried harder, or calling yourself stupid. People just do mean things sometimes, not because of the people they do them to but because of who they are. People blame themselves for being betrayed because it makes them feel like they can keep it from happening again in the future, but it just doesn't work that way.

[dukedogsmom]

Forgiving isn't making excuses for the person who hurt you or setting yourself up to let them hurt you again. It's just closing the book. The trickiest part is forgiving YOURSELF for having gotten into that situation in the first place - learning how to stop wondering how you "brought it on yourself" or could have "saved" them if you'd tried harder, or calling yourself stupid. People just do mean things sometimes, not because of the people they do them to but because of who they are. People blame themselves for being betrayed because it makes them feel like they can keep it from happening again in the future, but it just doesn't work that way.

I've read this several times and am trying to understand what you mean. From your last sentence, does it mean that no matter how hard we try, it's still going to happen?