Anyone spare a hug?

**cyber-sibes** · 10-26-2006, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by ramanth

You can pick your friends but you can't pick family.

Amen to that! After living 500 miles away for 8 years, I moved back 3 1/2 years ago to within 70 miles of my brother. Every time I call and say I'm going to be in the neighborhood, "they have plans". I've invited them over, offered to meet up somewhere, and hinted that I would like to be invited over to their place. I've seen him.....once. I give up.
((((hugs)))) to you, and if he comes over to help you out, I hope it goes ok.

**borzoimom** · 10-26-2006, 11:50 AM

Amen to that sister. ...

**catnapper** · 10-26-2006, 11:55 AM

Originally Posted by cyber-sibes

Amen to that! After living 500 miles away for 8 years, I moved back 3 1/2 years ago to within 70 miles of my brother. Every time I call and say I'm going to be in the neighborhood, "they have plans". I've invited them over, offered to meet up somewhere, and hinted that I would like to be invited over to their place. I've seen him.....once. I give up.
((((hugs)))) to you, and if he comes over to help you out, I hope it goes ok.

We must be related!!! I've lived in this house nearly 6 years. My brother has been here exactly 3 times. Once for my son's 16th birthday party where he announced that they were expecting a baby, which of course stole Tony's thunder. Nobody even paid attention to my son on his birthday thanks to my clueless brother. I've been to his house a dozen or so times during that time, I even saw his new house a few weeks ago (though I probably wouldn't have done that if it wasn't for mom basically twisting my arm)

Mugsy, guilt and I are old friends. It doesn't take much to make me feel guilty. I have been telling him things like you said... when he mentioned me not asking about his sons the first thing out of my mouth was that Cam's 4 months old and he hasn't even met him. He tried to say he was never invited.... who needs an invitation to meet a new baby in the family? Besides, I DID invite him and his wife! Oy, I feel like we're still kids saying "nut-uh!" "yeah-huh!" pbbtttthhhh.

**mugsy** · 10-26-2006, 11:58 AM

I contend that you need to worry about you and your family and let him worry about his and if things work out, then it was in the cards, if not, then let it go. I have some other ideas too, but, it would take entirely too long to post and people would think I was fruit loop after waking up.

**catnapper** · 10-26-2006, 12:03 PM

hmmm... I like Fruit Loops! My husband recently began to ask me if I had any "normal" friends. Ummmm... good question dear, but what does that make you if everyone I am friends with are slightly off center?

**Queen of Poop** · 10-26-2006, 12:46 PM

I'm sorry I missed this until now. Here's a hug for you, if you still need it. Don't let him walk all over you, you're the big sister, you're supposed to be the bossy one that no one pushes around (says a fellow big sister).

I have to say though that you are lucky to have him, pain in the butt or not. I had 2 younger brothers, one died 20 years ago and one went to jail on a few occassions and I no longer have any contact with him.

Hopefully you can work something out where he is more respectful to you.

**jenluckenbach** · 10-26-2006, 02:52 PM

Originally Posted by catnapper

My husband recently began to ask me if I had any "normal" friends.

I don't think I want to know what he thinks of me!!

And I can top your brothers! I have been in MY house for 9 years and the only time my brother was here was to deliver something large (because he has a truck) and he never got past the front porch.

**Corinna** · 10-26-2006, 03:39 PM

Chartiy and I loved the video. what is normal "the worst of the best and the best of the worst. " who wants that.
i won't even go in to my brother. hug

**Cataholic** · 10-26-2006, 01:29 PM

Originally Posted by cyber-sibes

Amen to that! After living 500 miles away for 8 years, I moved back 3 1/2 years ago to within 70 miles of my brother. Every time I call and say I'm going to be in the neighborhood, "they have plans". I've invited them over, offered to meet up somewhere, and hinted that I would like to be invited over to their place. I've seen him.....once. I give up.
((((hugs)))) to you, and if he comes over to help you out, I hope it goes ok.

Next time you are in MY neighborhood, come on over!!!

Hugs to you, Kim. Now repeat, don't be a doormat, don't be a doormat, don't be a doormat.