Horrific News

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

How horrible.......

[Karen]

Tell your daughter she is in our prayers, okay?

[shihtzulover850]

Tell your daughter she is in our prayers, okay?

yes please do!!!

[Lori Jordan]

We had a terrible night i was up most of it with her she is finally sleeping now she was having nightmares last night i went into her room she was standing in the dark looking out her window saying she sees alyse hanging off our tree's i started crying i cannot imagine this how her thoughts are right now so we went outside and she seen that there was nothing there she says Alyse is trying to tell her something?I have never delt with this in my life and i appologize if i might sound selfish im scared that Becca will never be able to overcome some things this was her dearest best friend they have been friends since the two of them have been in diapers i can not imagine i have had friends killed in car wrecks and one friend murderd but suicide is something totaly different the loosing part is the same i now kinda wish Becca did not know how she did it am i bad for thinking this?Im so confused and heart broken that my baby girl has to go through this and the funeral is on Monday we are going i think it would be good for her to say goodbye but will it hurt her in the long run,Now Alyse was such a good kid she was always there when becca needed someone to talk to when she was having problems at school Becca says she owes it to her i want whatever Becca wants im just scared of what will happen after the service.Thank you all so much for all your kindness!!!

[Pawsitive Thinking]

That is too sad for words - your daughter is lucky to have you. Please give her a hug from her PT family

[shihtzulover850]

poor dear.......

[zoomer]

OMG that is horrible, she hung herself? OMG I can't imagine what your daughter is going through... I'm really sorry!

[gini]

My heart goes out to you and your daughter because you have to face and deal with this horrible event.

But what I am reading encourages me so much - and that is YOU and how you are right beside your daughter every step of the way. My God, how does a 13 year old process all of this in her mind? No wonder she has a vacant look.

I truly do hope that the school has some counselling for all of the students.

But what your daughter needs as well is what you are giving her - solid support and lots and lots of love. It will be difficult - because as you are telling us she will go through many phases - laughter - tears - stone silence - it will be tough for you to see - and deal with.

Your daughter's life is valuable - she is very well loved - and what a tragedy her young friend did not know that about herself.

You have my prayers - and more prayers!

[Lori Jordan]

She is just having a tougher time than most she was talking to Alyse the night of they always called eachother at nine or so to say good night and Becca says she called and sounded fine she said she did not sound bubbly like she always does but she told Becca her and her mom has a fight and she said she would be fine and would see Becca on the bus in the morning and that was the last she spoke to her....I think that is what Becca is having such a hard time with at the moment she says to me this morning "Mama i did not get to tell her i loved her and never got to say good bye" its heartbreaking

[Lobodeb]

Poor baby. Like I said, suicide is so ugly and painful. The survivors are left with so many "what if's" and "if I'd only..." etc.

What Becca needs to know, is that even if Alise gave some sort of indication that things weren't right, and Becca didn't pick up on it, then Becca's left feeling guilty, like she could have helped, or prevented it. If she had said good-bye, there's always something left that she should have or could have said. Please tell her that this is all totally normal for her to feel this way. It hurts like the dickens, but it's normal.

As Gini said, you're doing the best you can by just being there for her. Just listen to her. Let her rant and rave and cry and scream. Don't feel you have to answer her questions, because they'll probably never be answered. She needs to be able to talk to someone.

Hugs to you and Becca.

[slick]

I've come back to this thread a thousand times intending on posting some encouraging thoughts, but how can I? I've never been a mother, I've never had to deal with suicide and I've certainly never had a friend who has passed.

All I can offer up is lots of prayers for you Lori, Becca, Alyse and her family and friends. I can only imagine the pain you all going through.

RIP Alyse. You did what you had to do at the moment.

No tears in heaven.

[Alysser]

I'm so sorry your daughter is experiencing this situation. I'm speechless...RIP Alyse. *HUGS and prayers to poor Becca.*

[Lori Jordan]

Just got back from the funeral it was very intersting i must add the way Mom was acting she was smiling and laughing at the burial i dont know if this was my daughter if i could get enough strength to put a smile on my face!!Becca is ok they had a open casket which was hard for her she seems to be ok today she said Mom she is not at rest now so im hoping that by her going it will make her realize that she is now in no more pain and she dont have to deal with the harrasment anymore,i wish she was still here i miss her smiling face but she is gone now and the only thing we can do is keep her memory alive..She was one sweet individual and will be greatly missed the girls that were harrassing her are all up on charges and im glad...hopefully they will be put in jail and get a taste of there own medicine i hate bullys!So that is all for now tc guys!

[Lobodeb]

Thanks for the update, Lori.

BTW, my offer is still on the table for you and Becca.

Hugs and prayers for you both.

[carole]

Lori i am so sorry that your daughter has to deal with such pain so young in her life, just be there for her and love her to bits, one never knows what is going on in their minds and i hope she will confide in you her inner thoughts, you sound a wonderful mother and i know this must be extremely painful for you as well,as you know i have experienced personal loss from suicide and i can well understand the despair you and your daughter must be feeling right now, just know you are in our thoughts and we hope that we can bring some sort of comfort to you at this horrible time in your lives. take care and HUGS to you both.