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[Uabassoon]

The patch has only been out four to five years. I was on it from the time it started. I'm assuming they are the same. These lawsuits cover everything from infertility, blood clots, heartattacks and some wrongful deaths. I just wished I had stayed on the pill. Maybe I wouldn't have gone through all of this.

Please don't blame yourself for this. Everything happens for a reason. You have lots of friends here that will help you through this.

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Aw Renae, I am so sorry you have to go through this..... .
You say your ovaries are damaged; has the doc talked to you about IVF? Of course, that isn't cheap either... .
Not be able to conceive is a very tough thing to accept. I know all about it!!
We went through same period, and finally decided to adopt. We have 2 adopted kids and we have a great family!
Isn't there a self-helf-group in your neighbourhood where you can talk with other couples like you?

lots of hugs to you, Renae!!

[Donnaj4962]

I am so sorry to hear about your health issues. I hope that you will be able to find a support group with other members who are having trouble dealing with the emotional issues of not being able to conceive. All my life, all I ever wanted was to have a child. But now at 44, I realize that my options are very limited. I, too, go through a very difficult time each time I hear of someone being pregnant or a new baby being born. I can relate to what you are feeling. I have opted to not go to baby showers because I know I will have a hard time controlling my emotions. I just send a gift and make an excuse for not being able to attend.

I was married for about 8 years, and we were never able to conceive. (Long story, but nothing is wrong with me physically that I could not conceive.) Now I am single again, with no prospects in sight, and each birthday that passes the realization becomes greater that I will never be a parent. BUT.... I agree with many others on here that you could consider adoption or even IVO. I know they are costly, and that you say there could be some issues preventing you from adopting, but please, do not give up.

I know that some of the adoption services (especially international) offer monetary assistance to families. Also, I know of one (single) lady who took out a second mortgage on her home to be able to adopt her daughter from Guatemala! She knows she will pay on it for years to come but also knows that it is worth it!

I have another friend whos brother and sister-in-law could not conceive, and they found a surrogate! She was a family friend who had 3 children of her own and offered to help them by carrying their baby. Baby Jack is now almost 3!

Keep the faith. Pray. And He will help you.

God bless you.

[luvofallhorses]

I am so sorry you have to go through this. You don't deserve to go through this at all. (((hugs))) I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and if you need someone to talk to I am just a PM away. Please know that we are here for you and want to help you in any way we can.

[emily_the_spoiled]

I am so sorry to read thatyou are feeling like this. Remember you are not a failure! There are always options, you judt might not see them right now because you are grieving for everything that has happened.

Please do not rule out the possibility of IVF, in some states it is mandatory that this be paid for by the health insurance. So you might want to check that out...

[carole]

Just wanted you to know you are indeed among friends here, and we are always here to listen and help anyway we can, I won't even say i know how you are feeling because i don't but i can only imagine your heartache, and feel for you so much, I hope that in time you may beable to adopt,maybe it is not right for you at the moment, but in time it will be, I know nothing we say can will heal your heart right now, but I hope it will bring you some comfort in knowing we all care and are here for you anytime. HUGS.

[anna_66]

First off....{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}

I'm very sorry to hear about this but PLEASE do not think of yourself as a failure and don't worry about "disturbing" us, because your not. We're all here for you.

If not being able to have children makes you a failure then count me & a lot of other women in because I'm not able to have children either. That was my life's dream. I wanted to get married and have a family....well I don't have skin kids but I have three wonderful furkids
Yes, it's a hard blow when you really want them but if it's really meant to be you will find a way.
Hope I don't sound harsh, but I've delt with this for the last 20 years and I know what it feels like.

More {{{{HUGS}}}}

[chrangharris]

Reanae,

I'm so sorry that you are being faced with this. I can only imagine the pain and hurt you are feeling right now! Please know that we care about you very much and are praying for you! I wish I could give you a big hug!

Chris