What should I do?

[Lobodeb]

Thanks everyone!

I guess I'll suck it up and send her a note. Blah!

[Cataholic]

I would send her a thank you note, because it reflects on the type of person YOU are, not her, YOU. Always better to be gracious.

[beeniesmom]

Yes, send her a Thank you note.
It was very considerate of her to send you those things.

[finn's mom]

I say definitely send her a note. It's up to you completely if you want to include a letter or more than just a thank you for the thoughtfullness of the package. Personally, I'd just send her a note.

[mina'smomma]

I think you should send her a thank you note. Although she was not nice to you doesn't mean you should stoop to her level. This will also honor your father's memory. Besides we all know your better then her hun.

[moosmom]

Debby,

Definitely send a thank you note. Like everyone said, she could've have just thrown them out. That was nice of her. And cherish the things she sent you.

When my Dad passed away, I was left with everything he had (which wasn't much, believe me). I didn't get along with my stepmother either. We also tolerated each other for my Dad's sake. She died before he did so I didn't have any problems. Except for my youngest stepsister. After her mother died, she stole the rings my Dad gave to her mother. I went and retrieved them from her, promising her I'd give them to her when my father passed away, as they really had no signifigance to me. I did just that. Never heard from her or the other 2 wicked stepsisters ever again. That suits me just fine.

Be greatful your stepmother sent you the things she did. Now you don't have to be bothered with her. Sorry about your Dad's passing.

[lizbud]

Thanks everyone!

I guess I'll suck it up and send her a note. Blah!

Good. You will be the better woman for it.

[Toby's my baby]

Glad you decided to send her a thank you note, I think you'll feel better, than if you wouldn't have.

[Flatcoatluver]

I voted wrong, I would sent a thank you note too, but I said no on accsident.

[joycenalex]

Does it change anyone's mind knowing that they were separated when he died? They were waiting till the end of the year to file for their divorce for tax reasons.

you'll still be classier for the note, no matter what type of person she is, you be the good example of how to act, let her be the bad one. ((HUGS)) it's gotta be hard on you.

[new mom to a veiled]

Deb I can say with 100% you are a very caring person, you would not have even pondered sending a thank you if you were not so caring. Think of it this way, at least she will know the package was recieved and your dad's personal items were not lost in the mail. You have a good head on your shoulders and a tender heart, do what feels best for you.

[carole]

I think i would send a quick thank you note too,doesn't have to say much, but expresses that you do appreciate the things you got, do whatever is in your nature, and from what i know about you on PT, you are a very caring, sweet lady, and i don't think you could just do nothing.

[Lobodeb]

FYI. I sent the thank you note on Friday.

Dear _____________(black widow),

Thank you for sending me some of my dad's things. That was very nice of you and very much appreciated. I miss him so much.

Please tell ______ and _______(my step sisters) hello for me.

Love,

Debby.

[JenBKR]

I think that sounds perfect. You are the one with class in this situation.