What should I do?

[Lobodeb]

I received a box in the mail yesterday. Wasn't expecting anything. I look at the sender and it's my dad's "widow." I open the box and find various items, some of which I really wanted. I am very grateful that she sent these things, however, I'm in a bit of a quandry. I don't like this woman. I never have. I tolerated her while my dad was with her, but she is the reason he is dead, IMHO. She killed him inside. I told my dad before he married her that she would be the end of him. He didn't believe me. The things she sent were, in part, a ring my mom gave my dad, his wedding ring when he was married to my mom, a ring my grandma gave him and the rosary and cross that were in his coffin. She also sent some cards I had sent him and some of his schematics from various things he's built for me.

My question to you is this:

Do I send her a thank you note? Part of me says yes. That she didn't have to send them to me. She could have easily thrown these things away without me knowing. Mind you, I didn't ask for any of these things. The other part says no. She acted like an itch with a B at the funeral. And the things she sent were things that had to do with me and my mom. She never liked the fact that my dad still wore the ring my mom gave him.

What do you think?

[kuhio98]

Yep, send her a note. It honors your father and the choice he made to marry her. It was a thoughtful thing for her to do. Especially, if she knows you don't care for her.

[caseysmom]

You are so much better than her just send her a short thank you, you will feel better about it in the long run.

[Lizzie]

I agree that a brief note thanking her for taking the time to send the things to you and that you appreciated receiving them is appropriate. You won't want to make it personal, talking about what the items mean to you. I doubt if you will regret sending it, but if you don't you will probably regret that decision later.

[jenluckenbach]

Please send a thank you note.

[joycenalex]

send her a thank you note. you be the class act she should be.

[carole]

I think i would send a quick thank you note too,doesn't have to say much, but expresses that you do appreciate the things you got, do whatever is in your nature, and from what i know about you on PT, you are a very caring, sweet lady, and i don't think you could just do nothing.

[beeniesmom]

Yes, send her a Thank you note.
It was very considerate of her to send you those things.

[finn's mom]

I say definitely send her a note. It's up to you completely if you want to include a letter or more than just a thank you for the thoughtfullness of the package. Personally, I'd just send her a note.

[mina'smomma]

I think you should send her a thank you note. Although she was not nice to you doesn't mean you should stoop to her level. This will also honor your father's memory. Besides we all know your better then her hun.

[new mom to a veiled]

Deb I can say with 100% you are a very caring person, you would not have even pondered sending a thank you if you were not so caring. Think of it this way, at least she will know the package was recieved and your dad's personal items were not lost in the mail. You have a good head on your shoulders and a tender heart, do what feels best for you.