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  1. #1
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    Please, please don't put yourself down like that! You are a wonderful dog owner! That guy should NOT have hit Zeke at all. Isn't that like illegal or something? It should be.

    Maybe Zeke isn't the most well behaved dog in the world... but he is a wonderful dog and should not be treated like that. He sounds very smart and overall well behaved. You should not be treated like that, either. They are the ones that are being disrespectful to you. I probably woulden't go back if I were you, but I woulden't stop doing flyball with Zeke either. Maybe start your own group? Put flyers around or something.

    Good Luck with everything.

    ...Danielle

    *Sammy*Springen*Molli*

  2. #2
    I don't have the money to start my own group. The jumps themselves are expensive, plus they easily break. I don't know enough about it either. So there is no point in that.



    My babies: Josie, Zeke, Kiba, Shadow (AKA Butter)

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    First don't beat yourself up. We all look at our dogs a bit differently than
    others do. (that's because we love them so much)
    I have a sister that spoils and doesn't train her love bug little dog
    nearly enough, yet in her mind her dog is trained.

    Looks like you have two choices.
    1st I do not think the team captains should discipline your dog.
    I think that should be done by you.
    If you enjoy flyball and you think Zeke does too, than
    bite the bullet and start disciplining him when he is rude to
    other dogs by time outs etc. IF after awhile it looks like Zeke is still
    not improving than try something else with him.

    I would have loved for my Rocky to be a Therapy dog but he would made a
    lousy one. Sheba, I would have loved to compete in obedience with, but
    she was not reliable off lead with other dogs.

    Give it another try and see what happens.
    Either way you have a wonderful dog in Zeke and you are a good owner.
    Just my two cents.


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    Quote Originally Posted by KYS
    First don't beat yourself up. We all look at our dogs a bit differently than
    others do. (that's because we love them so much)
    I have a sister that spoils and doesn't train her love bug little dog
    nearly enough, yet in her mind her dog is trained.

    Looks like you have two choices.
    1st I do not think the team captains should discipline your dog.
    I think that should be done by you.
    If you enjoy flyball and you think Zeke does too, than
    bite the bullet and start disciplining him when he is rude to
    other dogs by time outs etc. IF after awhile it looks like Zeke is still
    not improving than try something else with him.

    I would have loved for my Rocky to be a Therapy dog but he would made a
    lousy one. Sheba, I would have loved to compete in obedience with, but
    she was not reliable off lead with other dogs.

    Give it another try and see what happens.
    Either way you have a wonderful dog in Zeke and you are a good owner.
    Just my two cents.
    Those are some good ideas. I like the therapy dog idea as well as the competetion obedience.
    I love Fenway, JoJo, Olivia and Nonnie!

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    I'm waiting for Zeke to be tested to be a therapy dog, although I'm sure he'll suck at that too. He jumps up sometimes, and that is an automatic fail.



    My babies: Josie, Zeke, Kiba, Shadow (AKA Butter)

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    I don't mean to be mean at all, but you're acting like he can do nothing. I'm sure he's good at many things that you haven't seen yet. I bet he'll do good for a Therapy Dog, from what I've heard he seems like a real sweetie. Have you ever tried agility or frisbee? Or freestyle?

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    All I ment was, he sometimes jumps up on people, and if he does, he fails. There is no question in my mind that he would be an excellent therapy dog. Then again, same with flyball. He would be excellent at it too if not for his love of dogs.



    My babies: Josie, Zeke, Kiba, Shadow (AKA Butter)

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    The others are right, your definately are not a bad pet owner and don't ever think that. Zeke is a well cared for happy boy and for that you should consider yourself a great pet owner. It sounds like Zeke isn't the only one who has this problem, but the way you correct it may be where the problem lies. The trainer gave you some good advice on how to go about correcting Zeke if he does this. I don't know how your flyball training is setup, but if their are different levels you might want to take him back a level or 2 and start at the basics. He knows flyball so your focus can be on correcting the problem rather than teaching how to do flyball. I've seen an owner in Hunters agility class repeat a level to give them a chance to gain better control. Bottom line is no matter what don't ever think of yourself as a bad pet owner.

  9. #9
    I'm finished with them.

    The captain appearintly talked with both people, and they both said Zeke was biting them, staring them down and "targetting" them. Does this not sound like he is aggressive? They are appearintly experts, but yet they can't tell he is playing? THAT is how Zeke plays. He bites, yes, what dog doesn't when they play? He wasn't ripping into the dog. Zeke may not be so exerperianced with dog language, I don't know. He does play bow, but he doesn't go up to other dogs from the side, play bow. He doesn't. He gets right in their face and is like "let's play!!" he has NEVER had ANY problems with any dog outside of flyball. Every other dog takes this as play. Flyball tells me it is aggressive behaviour. They don' know dogs well. One of the dogs I'm looking after growls and snarls when she plays. At first I thought she was kinda mean, but no, that's how she plays. I believe Nala does the same thing, and from the time I've spent with her, she seems in no way, aggressive. A lot of flyball dogs on my team seem like robots. So why would they want to play with Zeke? Of course they will react badly, they don't WANT to play even if Zeke DID approach normally.

    I addressed the issue about Zeke being hit, and they simply avoided the question. They said this and that, but NEVER said "you're right, hitting is wrong" In fact, they said "No one at our club hits dogs. Witnesses say Mike only pushed Zeke" Tell me, how do you push a dog with a rope? He raised it in the air, and brought it down on Zeke. I'm not blind. I know what happened. But, it seems I'm the only one who saw it. Or, perhaps they live in their own world, and if one person says it, then everyone else must agree. They are perfect, after all.

    I'm not going to be dealing with people who can't even admit, or acknowlege when they've strike a dog. That's called anger. They keep going on about Zeke being rude...They say me OR zeke are not fit to be flyball people/dog. She said I'm too shy, and can't handle how other people treat my dog. In flyball, people do this to other peoples dogs. And I WAS FINE with it, until he HIT my dog that was under my control. There was NO need.

    I'm sure they'll sit around talking about what a stupid person I am, and how my dog is an aggressive dog, and how they're so glad to be rid of me. So much for all the vollenteer work I did for them.

    I cried for a good 3 or more hours last night until I was eventually just too tired and fell asleep. There is so much stress in my life, and it keeps building and building. First I had this issue with my friends and a trip, plus I've been working everyday for a month or 2 now, and it's taking a toll on me, now I'm looking after a friends dogs, which is a lot of pressure, now the flyball, and soon my work may or may not close. I don't handle stress well, and I usually get really depressed. I feel like crying all the time. I feel like the year or 2 I spent with those people, and they're just happy to see me go? I guess I was looking for someone to say "sorry to see you go" I'll miss them, but they won't miss me. I feel life isn't going to well for me right now



    My babies: Josie, Zeke, Kiba, Shadow (AKA Butter)

  10. #10
    Quote Originally Posted by pnance
    The others are right, your definately are not a bad pet owner and don't ever think that. Zeke is a well cared for happy boy and for that you should consider yourself a great pet owner. It sounds like Zeke isn't the only one who has this problem, but the way you correct it may be where the problem lies. The trainer gave you some good advice on how to go about correcting Zeke if he does this. I don't know how your flyball training is setup, but if their are different levels you might want to take him back a level or 2 and start at the basics. He knows flyball so your focus can be on correcting the problem rather than teaching how to do flyball. I've seen an owner in Hunters agility class repeat a level to give them a chance to gain better control. Bottom line is no matter what don't ever think of yourself as a bad pet owner.
    I agree, but she should have told me this in the beginning, not after a problem arises. I've only trained 2 dogs. They've had a lot of dogs, trained a lot of dogs. How can they expect me to be on their level of knowledge? Common sence to them, may not be for me! They NEED to tell me this or I won't know!!



    My babies: Josie, Zeke, Kiba, Shadow (AKA Butter)

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