Thanks for all the comments I've recived so far.

For the longest time I figured I'd just never tell her because i never saw it being much of an issue. I moved out of the state when I was 18 and I only ever see her twice a year. So I just figured it wasn't worth it.

But now that I'm getting older I'm starting to realize, what's going to happen if we decide to have a commitment ceremony? buy a house? raise a family? That is a lot to hide from my family, and I'm realizing that it's just too much to hide. I guess I never really thought about these things before.

Don't worry Kim if I decide to tell her soon it will be before the trip, as I want to give her time to settle things out in her mind. I know it tooks me a long time to be comfortable with myself and finally accept that I was gay. I know it's going to take my mother some time as well.

Thanks to all your comments it looks like I'm just going to bite the bullet and tell her. I think a letter would be best that way she at least knows and when she is ready she can choose to talk to me about it.

I'll be seeing her in two weeks, we are all going to D.C. to visit my sister. I think I'll send her a letter after the trip as I won't want to make the vacation (and my sisters graduation) uncomfortable. Plus it will be mothers day weekend and I wouldn't want to ruin that day for her.

As most of you stated I do think that my mom does know. But I also think that she convinces herself that she doesn't. Kind of like as long as I haven't said anything there is still hope she could be wrong. However I do think that she has an idea.