I'm sure I will get slammed for my opinion, but, as an educator, I support the office. Amazingly, we JUST had this discussion today in our faculty meeting!

Here's why I support it. If it is in the dress code that open shoulders are not allowed, then she should have had to change clothes. If you have a policy and let it go, then the whole discipline program goes out the window because it becomes, well you don't do anything about this, so why should it be different for this....

My question for the family is this..."If you put her in a private school, she'll wear a uniform. Why not have her dress in that manner for school?" And the statement she'll be teased is tired. Also, who CARES if they donated a piano and a fax machine....so, it's ok to bribe your way into breaking a school rule.

We actually discussed the possiblility of going to uniforms to stop the misbehavior. All of us have noticed that the kids are becoming more and more unruly and dress whatever way they please...girls in jeans cut so low you can see their crack when they sit down and shirts so short you can see their bras and everything so tight that it leaves nothing to the imagination. Guys were their pants around their ankles and muscle shirts yada yada and don't make me go there with those stupid doo rags. We have a no hat rule, but they argue non the less and often it's sprinkled with a lot of profanity. A lot of this can be prevented when the staff and adminstration work together to make sure the rules of the school are followed. And this particular school has the rule and the girl needs to follow it period...or face the consequences fax machine or not. As for the teacher that allowed her to take off the jacket was wrong to allow it. Perhaps they didn't know that the shirt had no shoulders, but, she should have been told to put it back on. Now my other question is why is a 6th grader wearing a shirt like that anyway? But, that's another thread.

This is just the opinion of an educator that deals with crap like this everyday. I realize it seems small, but, when you let the small stuff go, then the big stuff goes too.